Daily Dose for the Soul

Expectations from Self

The expectations we have from ourselves are at the root of our grief. We expect ourselves to be disciplined, calm, together, always caring and so on. But when we procrastinate. get angry, indulge immorally or act selfishly, somewhere we feel guilty. Even if no one was hurt or harmed in the process, we still feel bad. Primarily because we have certain expectations from ourselves and we failed to fulfil them. The troubling thing is that not all these expectations are right. Most of them have been handed down to us by our society, teachers, parents, peers, religion and so on.

Based on your education, samskara, upbringing, your social circle and your professional life, all of which play an important role in your conditioning, you expect yourself to be a certain way before others. You have set for yourself certain benchmarks and standards derived out of information passed onto you in many forms, normally based on the religion you practice and the company you keep in addition to other social and personal factors.

When these expectations, the ones you have from yourself, are not met, they give broth to shame and guilt. You feel low and tormented. In a state of as much denial as disbelief, you feel miserable and lost. You eternally stay buried under these expectations, majority of which is a big load of rubbish. With mindfulness you can filter them, keeping the ones that strengthen your consciousness and make you a more compassionate person.

Reference : A Million Thoughts. Om Swami

8 Comments Add yours

  1. Danix Kamau says:

    How do you practice mindfulness?

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    1. GS says:

      Mindfulness is the practice of purposefully focusing all of your attention on the current moment, and accepting it without judgment. This is a great place to start if you are looking for the key element in happiness. Done correctly, mindfulness will allow you to decrease your stress and anxiety, minimize the amount of time that you spend feeling overwhelmed, and help you appreciate each small moment as it happens. In a world of chaos, mindfulness might just be the trick you need to learn to be able to cope with the madness.You want the space you choose for mindfulness practice to be quiet, calm, and soothing. You will also want to pick a time during which you are unlikely to be interrupted. Create a space in your house that is peaceful and allows you to just relax while practicing mindfulness. Don’t use this space for anything aside from meditating. This way, when you sit down, your body will be notified that it is time to calm down and practice mindfulness.


  2. This post hit close to home from my very last post this morning.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you found this post helpful Sheryl.


  3. c.f. leach says:

    Great Post. You are so right. We are I own worse critics. Who bury ourselves and find it hard to dig out of the many negative emotions. But it can be done through positive thinking. We have to put on the mind of Christ to be set free.

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    1. GS says:

      But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. He will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you. All that belongs to the Father is mine.

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  4. Rambler says:

    attachment to the “self” is difficult vice to get rid of.

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    1. GS says:

      Its difficult but with practice we can let go some part of it


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