Common Core Beliefs

Identifying and then challenging such core beliefs can not only change feelings but can also transform a person’s approach to life. Assumed to be true, core beliefs often go unnoticed and unchallenged. Through identifying automatic thoughts, we can sometimes uncover the main beliefs that underlie our personalities.  Core beliefs can arise from childhood experiences, innate dispositions, cultural influence, and/or any combination of the three. Consequently, they can be difficult perceive and/or change.

When reading the following descriptions of typical core beliefs, determine whether any seem characteristic of your personality and/or notice any childhood experiences or other environmental factors that may have contributed to the belief. Here are some common core beliefs :

Defectiveness

  • I am inferior.
  • I am a failure.
  • I am worthless.
  • I am unattractive.
  • I am always wrong.
  • I am insignificant.
  • There’s something wrong with me.
  • I am a bad person.
  • I am incapable.

Entitlement

  • I am entitled to special treatment.
  • I must be respected or I can’t take it.
  • I can do no wrong.
  • Other should satisfy my needs.
  • If I don’t excel, I’m worthless.
  • Other don’t deserve good things.

Abandonment

  • People I love will leave me.
  • I am unimportant.
  • I will be abandoned if I care.
  • I can’t be happy on my own.
  • I’m not as good as others.
  • People will leave if I set boundaries.

Unlovable

  • I am unlovable.
  • I don’t matter.
  • I am incapable.
  • I am unwanted.
  • I am alone.
  • I will be rejected.
  • I don’t fit in anywhere.
  • I am unwelcome.
  • I am unlikeable.

Responsibility

  • I can’t ask for help.
  • My needs are unimportant.
  • Everything is my fault.
  • I can’t trust others.
  • I can fix people.
  • I have to make others happy.

Helplessness

  • I am powerless.
  • I can’t achieve.
  • I am weak.
  • I am a loser.
  • I am unsuccessful.
  • I am out of control.
  • I can’t handle anything.
  • I can’t change.
  • I am trapped.

Can you identify with any of these beliefs?

Reference : https://astoldbybex.com/how-to-identify-and-change-your-core-beliefs-for-the-better/

11 Comments Add yours

  1. Good to review every so often. I can say yes to a few.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked it Saumya.

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  2. A thought-provoking piece!

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. Negative core beliefs are typically self-sustaining in that the individual is biased in looking for information in specific situations which supports their core beliefs and disregards information which is inconsistent with them.

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      1. Yes, that makes sense and I imagine that these things seep into our consciousness very early in life

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      2. GS says:

        Yes indeed. Unknowingly they do!!

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  3. clcouch123 says:

    I probably own a few beliefs from each part. I think we’re conditioned when young in developing these. And that conditioning continues. We should know, however, that inner choice means more. But that awareness has to begin, somehow. A post such as this one of yours helps.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you I am glad you found my post informative. Becoming self-aware of who you are means that, you have a deeper understanding of your core identity. It is about knowing what exactly drives you to do things the way that you do them. Your values and beliefs are the things that make up your character which in turn influences your choices, actions and results in life.

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