It begins with the fundamental question, “Who Am I?”. The goal is to understand that the true you, the indestructible you is beyond the labels and temporary nature of this world. Are you a son, a daughter, a mother, a father, a brother, a husband, a wife, a friend, a manager, a CEO, a young person, an old person? Who are you? Perhaps you are some of these things, but these are more labels, they are temporary. These are the roles you play in the world but they only reflect your transient aspects. You were not a manager when you were born and you will cease to be one after you retire. Besides, these labels are dependent. Not only someone else has given them to you, they don’t apply without the existence of some other entity. For example, you can’t be a husband unless you have a wife, you can’t be a CEO unless there’s a company, you can’t be a father unless you have a child and so on. Most people identify themselves with these temporary dockets and when these tags are removed, they feel they have let their identity.
You may ask what is beyond these worldly labels anyway. A child thinks he or she is a child, a youth thinks he’s a youth but that its temporary again. A child graduated out of infancy to become a toddler, a youth graduated out of childhood to be a youth, an old person is no longer the youth he once was. Are you a man, woman? Are you the body? When someone causes you grief, who feels hurt in you, your body or your mind? Where is the mind? Once you negate everything perishable, all transient elements , all temporary labels, you are left with the purest element that defines you, the highest consciousness, the soul, the spirit, you may call it whatever name you wish to give.
Reference : A Million thoughts. Om Swami.