Modern dating can feel like an absolute nightmare. Swipe left, swipe right. Random conversations with strangers. Ghosting. It seems like no one wants to commit to anything real anymore, leaving countless individuals feeling frustrated and alone.

From the endless stream of worthless matches to the disappointing endings of many dates, modern dating can be incredibly challenging to navigate, and it’s no wonder that so many people are feeling fed-up with the whole process. Here are some reasons why modern dating has become such a difficult terrain for so many:

First off, modern dating is often superficial. On dating apps, we judge people on their looks or on a few lines of text they’ve provided. We become obsessed with projecting a certain image of ourselves, which makes it impossible for anyone to get a real sense of who we are. The emphasis is often placed on fleeting physical attraction rather than genuine connection, leaving many to feel used and undervalued.

Modern dating also lacks true emotional depth. Instant gratification and instant results have become a staple in our society, and dating is no exception. We treat people as disposable, forgetting that every interaction with another human being has value. People are often seen as just another number on our list of matches, rather than individuals with unique personalities, soul and experiences to share.

Another issue is that communication has drastically changed, and not necessarily in a good way. Instead of having meaningful conversations, we send heartless text messages. Ghosting has become the norm, making it acceptable to leave someone in a state of confusion, self-doubt, and hurt. Dating apps and social media have speeded up our thoughts and conversations, so that we don’t really get to connect emotionally or have a space to be present with one another. It’s easier to hide behind a screen, to avoid vulnerability, and to disappear when things get uncomfortable.

And then when we think we have found someone who could potentially be a great match, sometimes things just don’t work and we are back to square one. Sometimes the timing is off or the person simply was not who they portrayed themselves to be. Rejection is an unavoidable part of the dating process but that doesn’t make it any less painful. Sometimes, modern dating feels like a series of disappointments or a low-value casino where we spin the wheel and pray for the jackpot.

But perhaps the most challenging thing about modern dating is that it often feels like being strangers in a strange land. We live in a society that prizes individualism and personal success above all else, and, paradoxically, people are feeling lonelier and more disconnected than ever. Dating has somehow become a game of calculated risks, with less concern for the hearts that may break in the process. It’s so easy to fall into a trap of meaningless dates and toxic relationships.

In the end, modern dating may leave us feeling dissociated and drained, constantly wondering if there is anyone out there for us. It’s natural for anyone to crave deeper connections and sincere communication; however, having the odds so stacked against us can overshadow our efforts. It’s vital to take a step back and reflect on our own values, what we value in ourselves and what we look for in a potential partner. Whether we decide to keep trying or take a pause, we ultimately have the power to make the dating process more authentic and fulfilling for ourselves and others.

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6 responses to “Modern Dating Sucks”

  1. I think in moving ever more into the digital world dating is taking more of a back seat, everyone wants instant results and this always on mentality is a detriment. I know it’s cliche, but walking into a room and catching someone’s eye, that flicker of emotions and twinge in your heart. The anticipation as you walk over to talk to them. Then if you do it it off, your planning the next time to meet etc. Nothing can ever beat that feeling.

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    1. I agree with you completely. Traditional love was romantic. It lasted longer than modern love.

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  2. Thankfully, I’m married and too old for dating even if single. But, having been married for 38 years, I have some experience to share. Morals and values can change over time, but there should always be two or three that are hard set and not change. Find someone who has those same few hard set morals. Also, it helps to have a similar sense of humor and laugh often together. Those two components have kept this marriage going in the most trying times of our relationship (and there are always trying times between couples).

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    1. Thank you for sharing Lori. Stay blessed! Your relationship gives me hope to find someone someday 🤍

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  3. Hi Garima,

    Yes, it can be so impersonal and cold. God bless those who want to be face-to-face problems and all.

    Thanks, Gary

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