In uncertain times, supporting your friends and family can help them make it through.  The researchers studied how people responded to a variety of different messages offering emotional support. They found that messages that validated a person’s feelings were more effective and helpful than ones that were critical or diminished emotions. But it is a tricky line to walk. While you want to support your loved ones you also are very cautious of what you say because you do not end up hurting them more by saying the wrong things.

Here are a few ways to provide acceptance, support and validation:

• You’ve survived hardships before I believe in you.
• I know it’s difficult right now and things can easily go wrong. But let’s think about what can go right?
• All energy is natural. Learn to accept both bad and good vibes.
• It’s okay if you are feeling negative right now. It doesn’t have to define you.
• It’s alright if you aren’t positive and happy right now. Feel your emotions and let it pass naturally. My best wishes are always with you.
• Giving up is alright. In fact, sometimes it’s necessary that we give up. Focus on what you want to accomplish.
• I know how terrible it feels right now. But would you like to do something that you might enjoy?
• It’s okay if everything seems disappointing right now. We can sort things out and find a way to get thought this later.
• You can tell me what you’re going through. I’m here to listen.
• Success tastes sweeter only after failure. It helps us learn and grow.
• I know this is hard. I am here with you.
• It’s okay if you are struggling. We are all different and deal with problems in our own way.
• Pain and suffering are a part of life. It makes us stronger and helps us grow.
• This is really sad. I can understand what you’re feeling right now.

Reference : https://themindsjournal.com/toxic-positivity-vs-support-validation/