Control never proves to be satisfying for the one attempting the control or the one being controlled, because both, controlling others and being controlled by others are unnatural to man and beast. With the absence of the offering of control, all would find alignment with Source, and all would experience harmonious co-creating with one another. Whether man or beast, you have inherent innate selfish natures that you eternally seek to satisfy. In other words, when you are in complete alignment with the Source within you, and therefore experiencing the benefit of that Broader Perspective, control of another is never necessary to your survival or Well-Being. In that state of alignment, you are always guided to circumstances that will accommodate the Well-Being that you seek. Only someone not in that state of alignment would ever seek control over another.
While in the state of alignment, you offer no Vibration contradictory to your intent, and when it is without contradiction, in that powerful state of alignment, the Law of Attraction provides evidence of that non resisted intention. That is what influence is : when you are in that state of Connection, your power of influence is very strong, because it is only your contradictory Vibration that ever causes you to be weak.
Being in a state of powerful influence does not mean that you can get someone to stop doing what he intends to do and to begin pleasing you instead. It means that when you are not contradicting your own intentions and are therefore offering a powerful Vibrational signal, the Law of Attraction will immediately bring to you people, circumstances, and events that match the signal. Everyone with whom you interact holds myriad intentions, and at the core of every one of them is a Being who is pure, positive energy. And so, when you are in a state of alignment, you can then connect with the true nature of them. Focusing upon own alignment is the best way to maintain your power of influence.
Reference : The Vortex. Esther and Jerry Hicks