I’m sick of hearing that we deserve someone who will stay. We are entitled to more. I’ve witnessed many relationships where partners had no intention of leaving, but we are deserving of a love that is more than taking up residence on the other side of the bed or having a body on the other side of the dinner table.
I’ve been there before. I’ve been in a relationship where I knew I could trust them with their fidelity, but I shouldn’t have trusted them with their love. On my bad days, this person exacerbated them by making themselves the main character in every story. They never took the time to understand me, and they gradually stopped touching me or listening to anything I said. Even though they were sleeping next to me, I felt alone. Although I was aware that I deserved more, I chose to believe those who told me that they were a decent person instead. My own therapist even looked at me as if I were overly optimistic. I wasn’t, and you aren’t either if you expect more from someone who isn’t making enough.
You deserve to be first, to be someone’s first thought when the sun comes up. You deserve to be uplifted, to have words to hold you when the world falls apart. You deserve to be rooted for, to have someone on the sidelines cheering for you. You deserve grace, someone to hold your flaws in their soft palms. You are deserving of being desired, of feeling desire inside the grace of their fingertips. You deserve to be known by someone who remembers your favourite colour, coffee order, favourite flower, time of day, the wishes you’ve whispered in your sleep, and everything that makes you happy. You deserve to be whole, to have someone who will never take away your precious life.
Please do not accept someone who only stays. I understand that loneliness can get the best of us, but being with someone who brings you more grief than joy or who doesn’t put any effort into your days will only leave you feeling hollower. Expect more from yourself. Have the fortitude to wait for the love you deserve. We deserve more than just to stay.
I also posted this on my Medium blog
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