I’m sick of hearing that we deserve someone who will stay. We are entitled to more. I’ve witnessed many relationships where partners had no intention of leaving, but we are deserving of a love that is more than taking up residence on the other side of the bed or having a body on the other side of the dinner table.
I’ve been there before. I’ve been in a relationship where I knew I could trust them with their fidelity, but I shouldn’t have trusted them with their love. On my bad days, this person exacerbated them by making themselves the main character in every story. They never took the time to understand me, and they gradually stopped touching me or listening to anything I said. Even though they were sleeping next to me, I felt alone. Although I was aware that I deserved more, I chose to believe those who told me that they were a decent person instead. My own therapist even looked at me as if I were overly optimistic. I wasn’t, and you aren’t either if you expect more from someone who isn’t making enough.
You deserve to be first, to be someone’s first thought when the sun comes up. You deserve to be uplifted, to have words to hold you when the world falls apart. You deserve to be rooted for, to have someone on the sidelines cheering for you. You deserve grace, someone to hold your flaws in their soft palms. You are deserving of being desired, of feeling desire inside the grace of their fingertips. You deserve to be known by someone who remembers your favourite colour, coffee order, favourite flower, time of day, the wishes you’ve whispered in your sleep, and everything that makes you happy. You deserve to be whole, to have someone who will never take away your precious life.
Please do not accept someone who only stays. I understand that loneliness can get the best of us, but being with someone who brings you more grief than joy or who doesn’t put any effort into your days will only leave you feeling hollower. Expect more from yourself. Have the fortitude to wait for the love you deserve. We deserve more than just to stay.
I also posted this on my Medium blog
Be Inspired..!! 
So true!
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Glad you agree Nicole
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Perhaps it is your sacrifice. Maybe not
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Maybe
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I love this and totally feel you!
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Glad you liked the post.
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You describe a perfect partner, and that creature doesn’t exist—though I wish they did. 🙂
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I wish so too
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Indeed I do deserve more than someone who stays. The real question is, where do i find him?
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If you ever find an answer to that, let me know too
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Hey GS,
How are you doing?
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Your words are honest and forthcoming! Each of us deserve the very best from a spouse. Yes, little things make a huge difference when filled with love.
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Thank you. I am glad you agree with my words.
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Relationships require conscious effort to work requiring mutual respect, cooperation, and communication. And we also need not make things about ourselves. The model is is a godly relationship (e.g., Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3).
Mark 12:30-31 puts things in proper perspective.
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Wise words. Thank you for sharing with us.
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When I was young (I’m nearly 70) my Dad used to tell me I was ‘too fussy’ about a partner. I wasn’t. When the right man came along, he still disapproved but I married him anyway and now that was 40 yrs ago! Be guided by your own light.
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Absolutely
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Patience*
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This is wonderful.
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Thank you Blanc. Glad you liked the post.
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It’s actually amazing, to know you can love and be loves back, the ball of contention is are we ready for the first step of love?
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Yes, we need to be ready within us before we can expect the external circumstances to change.
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That’s actually true, the waiting requires patients, a fruit of the Holy Spirit.
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True
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