We encounter numerous circumstances throughout the day in which we respond emotionally. We have a tendency to mismanage our lives when we come into situations that we see negatively, and we frequently aren’t even aware of it.
When we’re overcome by bad feelings, we often act foolishly, say things we don’t mean, and make bad choices.
The ability to manage emotions in a healthy way is a trait of those who are emotionally intelligent. They are aware that there is always the potential to change their lives when they feel furious, helpless, envious, or regretful.
Every mental activity results in a distinct physical sensation. This is what is called an emotion. Emotions are a combination of mental and physical experiences. This composite represents the entirety of your health at any given time. In response to your experiences, your endocrine system produces hormones. The more extreme your experiences, the more intensely your body will react by releasing certain hormones. This causes intense feelings of intense despair, intense hatred, or intense happiness and ecstasy. Even if some people you know appear to be always happy, they are not. It is impossible to be blissfully happy all of the time, nor is it natural to be overly emotional by default. That’s because happiness, like pleasure, joy, anger, and stress, is an emotion. The hormones released dissolve in the body over time and return to normal levels. To put it bluntly, emotions are simply temporary hormone mixes flushed through our bodies as a result of certain life experiences. Zen Buddhists remind us that in their natural state, humans are content, calm, and centred. Each emotion is unique, legitimate, and deserving of full recognition for this reason. That is why understanding our bodies’ psychological mechanisms is critical. When you’re emotionally charged and aware of it, you can respond rather than react, which are two distinct things: Reacting is a habitual behaviour. It is precisely when we allow our emotions to control our actions. Responding entails being aware of our words and actions as we move forward.
Three helpful methods for dealing with emotions.
After all, we are emotional beings, and we must accept this fact. A surge in pleasure or stress emotions is always accompanied by a surge in mental activity and/or physical influences. That is why emotions make excellent life teachers. They help us understand what our lives are all about, what we want to see in them, and what we don’t. It all comes down to certain patterns that emotionally intelligent people are aware of and follow in their daily lives. Here are three examples:
When they are emotionally charged, they do not appear to be influential. Our emotions have a strong influence on how we make decisions, speak, and act. You’ve probably had moments when you said something to someone that you didn’t mean. You were simply pushed by your rage and said it in order to hurt that person. You probably made promises to people on a good day. But a few days later, you don’t feel well enough to keep them. Perhaps a friend invited you out and you agreed to meet. But then, a few days later, you decide you’re not in the mood to meet, so you cancel. Maybe you’re having a bad day, and all of your efforts on your project seem pointless after all, and you consider quitting. The rule behind these scenarios is simple: never respond when you are angry. When you are happy, never make a promise. Never make a decision when you are sad. This rule may feel strange at first, but it helps us become more aware when we try to see things objectively. This rule prevents us from hurting others, making stupid decisions, or acting in a counterproductive manner.
They use their emotions to educate others.
Ignoring emotions is a common but highly ineffective way of dealing with them. It appears to be the quickest way to eliminate them in the short term. Ignoring your emotions, especially when they are recurring, will not help you at all. It’s not just about getting over your feelings. It’s all about paying attention to what they’re trying to tell you about your experience.
A negative emotion exposes an unresolved aspect of yourself. The things that bother you the most do not appear at random. They are your own thoughts trying to figure out what in your life can and must be transformed, changed, or fixed. Emotions have a purpose and are created by your thoughts. Negative emotions can be linked to specific thoughts in your mind. When you understand why something is triggering you so much, you can release it and create a positive life change. Remember that whatever you do not change is a choice. Anger can assist you in better understanding your priorities. It attempts to compel you to act. Jealousy of someone can help you figure out what you truly want out of life. Even if you don’t agree with everything they have planned, your rage stems from the fact that they are pursuing something while you are not. Embarrassment occurs when we recognise that we did not behave in a manner that we are proud of. It could be a sign that we don’t fully accept ourselves for who we are or that we don’t have full confidence that we’re doing the best we can with what we have. Regret reveals what we absolutely must create. We often regret what we did not do more than what we did. It is a sign that we must, above all, live up to our expectations. Every emotion has a deeper cause that must be acknowledged and comprehended. Facing and resolving them will always help you evolve.
They always prioritise growth over comfort.
We can watch Netflix or work on our heart projects after a long day at work. Ticking another task off our to-do lists and working for ourselves will produce the same amount of dopamine as watching Netflix. Still, the choice is ours. It’s more convenient to watch a TV show than to work on our project. It’s easier to order our favourite fast food than to prepare a home-cooked meal. It’s easier to ignore the people around us than it is to positively influence and treat them. Short-term dopamine is often too enticing to ignore. Nonetheless, there is little growth on the road that was ostensibly easy to travel. Whether you spend your time binge-watching Netflix or working on your craft, the action you choose will have a completely different impact on your life mission and freedom. Whether you eat fast food or prepare a healthy dish, the long-term impact on your health and physical well-being will be very different.Whether or not you pay genuine attention to the people around you and listen carefully to what they say and mean the quality of your relationships and the love and care you receive will be greatly influenced. Always prioritise growth over ease. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t eat, breathe, or relax on occasion. It should also not imply that you must forego a beautiful today in order to have a beautiful tomorrow. Simply put, you must accept responsibility for your actions.
Each decision to do or not do something will inevitably lead to a specific result. The micro shifts you make on a daily basis will either pay off or cause you problems in the long run. Remember that your body reacts to your experiences by releasing hormones. Allow positive emotions to be the reward for supportive and powerful actions dedicated to your long-term growth.
Emotionally intelligent people understand how to deal with emotional charges in a healthy way. It all comes down to a few patterns that emotionally intelligent people are aware of and follow in their daily lives:
– When you’re overcome with emotion, don’t try to be influential: When you are angry, never respond. When you are happy, never make a promise. When you are sad, never make a decision.
– Because emotions reveal unhealed parts of yourself, use them as teachers: When you understand why something is triggering you so much, you can release it and create a positive life change. Remember: What you don’t change, you choose.
– Always prioritise growth over ease. The micro shifts you make on a daily basis will either pay off or cause you problems in the long run. Certain hormones are released by your body in response to your experiences. Allow positive emotions to be the reward for supportive and powerful actions dedicated to your long-term growth.
In a nutshell, redo what makes you happy and fix what doesn’t.
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So in fighting depression I have been numb to my emotions around people. However my emotions are fine when watching a movie. Is that weird? I wonder how to flip it.
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When we fail to express our emotions, our brain frequently enters a fight-or-flight response. This is a physical response to stress that causes a chain of events to occur throughout our bodies. It raises our heart rate, slows digestion, and causes us to feel anxious or depressed.
Use creative outlets such as painting, music, or dancing to express yourself. These methods of expression can be extremely effective for releasing sadness while also creating something beautiful.
Abstract, creative ways of processing sadness can be especially beneficial for people who struggle to express their feelings aloud or find it difficult to open up to others.
“The most important thing to remember when using an approach like this is to make sure the end results don’t leave you feeling worse or more depressed. If that is the case, this approach is likely to be counterproductive, as it will keep you stuck in this emotion.
What do you think Gary?
Anything to lift that dark cloud is appreciated. I will tell you that wallowing isn’t the answer as well as stuffing it. So, finding some good coping skills does help. Finding to root is a mixed bag. I have gotten to my root and it might be something I can’t fix. I might have to live with that. That is where it is.
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I can relate to this Gary. Also I am so happy to see you working through things because it’s tough but still you are at it.
By working through despair and connecting with others, despair becomes a catalyst for growth. When we embrace suffering, accept it, mourn, and grieve with others, our heart not only heals, it grows stronger.
These days, when despair knocks, I open the door and welcome it in. After many years of avoiding it, I recognize that despair is even a part of happiness and joy. It reminds me of the preciousness of the present moment and the fragility of life.
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