Don’t Forget To Live For Yourself

It seems sense that we might accidentally start to give up our own pleasure and freedom when we spend the most of our early years trying to figure out how to fit in and make everyone else happy. We pick occupations we believe other people will approve of, we buy clothes that are in style, and we stick with friends or partners simply for the sake of peace. We give in to the demands of others while disregarding and stunting the development of our own selves.

We learn the art of rationalisation and justification in an effort to persuade ourselves that sacrificing some of our enjoyment is worthwhile in order to fit in. Yet the truth is that because they don’t understand your needs the way you do, people will never be able to take the finest care of your life and decisions. You must make a commitment to yourself and your needs if you want to start living for yourself and no longer being controlled by other people’s expectations. Knowing that others might not agree with or understand, you must allow yourself the flexibility to pursue your interests. You don’t have to think of freedom as a nebulous or unreachable ideal. Real freedom comes from identifying and then achieving your own expectations. It is the skill of allowing your true self to freely express itself while understanding that only you are capable of making the best decisions for your life.

Everyone of us is born into a world with unique circumstances and genetic makeup. Some people were created to help others. Some people are natural artists. The desire to do something was ingrained in you from birth. Do not let your motivation lapse. Finding what gives you meaning and pursuing it with commitment and rigour are the goals here rather than pursuing wealth, fame, or power.

“I tell you that you’ll be incredibly unhappy for the rest of your life if you actively aim to be less than you are capable of being. You’ll be avoiding your own potential and capabilities. Muhammad Maslow

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9 Comments Add yours

  1. Lori says:

    Hi Garima. I can’t remember a time I’ve succumbed to pressures to be something I’m not. And there has been a LOT of pressure over my many years. However, people need to be aware that when they are being their authentic- selves, life can get lonely at times. A faith in something greater that loves us can help. The expectations of others won’t be met and we become isolated. At least that’s been my experience.

    I can’t help but wonder if people who expect us to go- along- to-get-along are jealous to some extent. Jealous because they aren’t strong enough to let their authentic-selves shine.🤷‍♀️

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    1. GS says:

      There are all kinds of people in the world.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. sicetnon3 says:

    Do you believe living requires a reason?

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      1. sicetnon3 says:

        From my perspective, a consciousness that believes it is separate from life seeks justification for the life it has (a reason), however, life itself (not separate) needs no justification for being what it is.


  3. Chily Kim says:

    You are absolutely right . This what happened to me, but now I know what I’m doing. Btw I love your writing 💐

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    1. GS says:

      It’s important to not forget ourselves in the process. Thank you, Chily!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Chily Kim says:

        You are right ❤

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