We seem to be haunted by obsessions, bad habits, unhelpful thoughts, and emotional ties. If only we could quit constantly checking our phones, obsessively thinking about that person (and obsessively monitoring their social media profiles), or overindulging in chocolate bars. We could instantly be considerably lighter and healthier. If we could only… let it go. The common misconception is that it takes 21 days of consistently performing an action for it to get ingrained in your life and become a habit. In fact, studies show that it is more of a 66-day affair. It could take more time or less. Who knows…? Average is 21 days, and everyone knows they are not average.

We all understand. Let it go, we must. Though it is simple to comprehend something conceptually. We would all be extremely disciplined, emotionally developed, prosperous, and excellent lovers if that were all it took. Let’s examine this from two angles. The first is repression and suppression. Then, we consider how to break that tendency in practise.

Putting down and suppressing
Thus, telling a thought to “go out of here,” is insufficient to alter a pattern. We might even become more irritated, anxious, and even neurotic as a result. This is so that we don’t further repression and oppression by utilising force. Repression suggests guilt or terror (or both!). Suppression is the forcible erasure of undesirable items from our consciousness (resulting in preventing their expression). Not exactly wholesome. Simply having that kind of unfavourable internal dialogue makes me feel more anxious. Making the concept disappear can make us become even more fixated. The brain seems to interpret “no” as “yes” in this way (the cosmos is certainly amusing in its own way…). However, the act of merely trying to stop thinking (or not thinking) is the exact opposite of what “letting go” entails. Hence, when we ask someone to “just let go” or simply say, “let go,” we are also setting them up for a trap. Letting go of ourselves is a command, a control-aspiration. softer still The ability to let go comes from a place of kindness and acceptance, not from a Sargent.

The fact is, letting something go just means accepting it for what it is and letting it be. Not under our control. Therefore, the obsession or habit is free to remain or vanish as it pleases because we have no control over it. Everything has a life of its own, even the things we try to let go of. We didn’t force it to move; we just let it be. Recognise that although they may be, thoughts and feelings are not us. It is up to us how much we nurture them as they come and leave. It won’t help to kick them or intentionally try to ignore them. In a sense, we are feeding them when we try to push them away because we are giving them attention. For example, when practising meditation, allow ideas and emotions to come and go without identifying with them. Eventually, what we don’t nurture will vanish. Reread that last sentence: someday, what we don’t nurture will vanish. On the other hand, what we nurture endures and expands. The question then becomes: What would you choose to cultivate in its place? Where do you wish to focus your attention, along with what ideas and emotions?

What do you select, and where is our focus now?
This is a workout for regaining the strength of the part of our spirit that surrenders. the person who plays and doesn’t take things too seriously. similar to a child who cries and falls to the ground before completely forgetting about it after five minutes. The first step is presence. We must be present in the moment so that we can recognise when we are having those thoughts or acting in that way and divert our attention elsewhere. Naturally, it takes some time, but ultimately we can create a new behaviour loop. By making a different choice, we actively use our authority to divert our attention instead of suppressing a thought. As a result, we have the free will and awareness to choose to focus our attention on something else, whether it be the surrounding beauty or complete emptiness. We can move our body, perform a quick dance, and sing a little bit instead of worrying. We can take a few deep breaths or focus on that other project we are working on. We can concentrate on a thing for which we are thankful. Look at the bird that is currently soaring in the sky. We can, yes.

In addition to helping us let go of things that are weighing us down, doing this gives us more energy to design the life we want while also boosting our willpower. It’s a triple victory. A keen will makes decisions about where to focus its attention while being in harmony with the rest of us. There are a trillion things going at any given time. Again and over again, we get to choose where we focus our attention. is what important. That is pure mindfulness and presence. More than that is not necessary. What are you focusing on instead when that thought you wish to let go of reappears?

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