Complaining Makes You Look Unattractive

“Complaining is not a viable strategy. We all have a limited amount of time and energy. We are unlikely to achieve our goals if we spend our time whining. And it will not make us happy.” — Randy Pausch, author of The Last Lecture

I’ve always been a person who sees the glass as half-full. I try to see the bright side of things. Complaining never helped me. It only served to keep me focused on the problems in my life rather than the solutions. Complaining will distance you from the people in your life and can make you appear more unattractive in body, soul, and spirit. It is best to focus on the positive aspects of your life and count your blessings. I’m speaking from personal experience. Right now, there are many mountains in my life, but I’m choosing to focus on my faith and solutions.

Consider the five reasons why you should reevaluate your life, stop complaining, and cultivate a grateful attitude. You are free to continue down this path of ingratitude. It will, however, serve no useful purpose in your life.

  1. Unhealthy Physical Presence – Our total body health and wellness are directly related to how we treat our bodies, such as exercising and eating a healthy diet, as well as the environments in which we live. Constantly complaining can have a negative impact on brain health because stress hormones released by our brain can disrupt neural connections. Healthy neural functions ensure that we can effectively solve problems through proper cognitive functionality. Psychologist Martin Seligman conducted research that demonstrated that maintaining a positive attitude can benefit your life more than remaining pessimistic and complaining all of the time. According to Dr. Seligman, people who are more positive and complain less are more likely to have a “healthy glow and optimistic perspective,” which can make you more appealing to others in life.
  2. Promotes Melancholy – Consistently complaining can set you up for a toxic cycle of depression and failure. Even if you have a minor success, as a chronic complainer, you will most likely focus on how you failed to meet all of your goals. I am drawn to people who have a positive outlook on life and are not constantly complaining. Perhaps you are drawn to that type of personality and viewpoint. However, you probably don’t want to be around this type of person. Yes, I enjoy encouraging others, but I don’t want to be depressed by someone else’s negativity. You probably don’t either.
  3. Creativity is destroyed – I think creatively. I enjoy thinking outside the box in order to solve problems and make positive changes in my life. My creativity is stalled on days when I am depressed and want to complain about what is going on in my life. I try to write, but I can’t concentrate enough on gathering my thoughts to fill the page. Instead, my thoughts are on everything that is wrong, when they should be on everything that is right. My creativity would then begin to flow once more.
  4. Reduces Productivity – People who complain tend to focus on problems and are unable to see past the weeds to find solutions. If they concentrated on finding solutions, they might be able to break free from their paralysis.
    Allowing negativity to take over your life and reduce your productivity in both your personal and professional life is a bad idea. Accept personal responsibility for your actions and resolve to change. When I was younger, I used to complain more until I realised it added nothing to my life. You can break the toxic cycle of focusing on what is wrong in your life and begin to consider how to make positive changes. Don’t grumble. Look for solutions.
  5. Relationships that are stifled – Don’t let complaining take over your life and ruin your relationships with family and friends. Make an effort to disprove the adage that misery loves company by focusing on the good things and people in your life. With the world crisis of the coronavirus pandemic, it is easy to be depressed by the uncertainty of our current conditions and quarantine life. Consider keeping a gratitude journal in which you list three things you are grateful for each day. As a reformed complainer, I will admit that this will most likely be a difficult task to complete at least at first. You’re not used to focusing on the positive aspects of your life and instead prefer to dwell on the negative.

I don’t keep a gratitude journal every day. However, it was extremely beneficial to me during the year-long journey I took to transform my mindset in the midst of adversity. Now that I have this journal, I can write in three blessings whenever I need to refocus my perspective.

Making the first move – If you want to reform your mindset and break the never-ending toxic cycle of always complaining and never seeing the good in your life all you have to do is take the first step and admit you want to change. It will be difficult, but anything worth fighting for is worth fighting for.

Hi, I’m Garima and I write about life experiences. I have several books available on Amazon. Check them out today! Any purchases or KDP reads will be greatly appreciated. If you like my books, do leave a review. Here’s my author page on Amazon –


4 Comments Add yours

  1. CattleCapers says:

    I prefer to think of the glass as “filling up.”

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Brilliant way of looking at it.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Janice Reid says:

    Word…such truth here!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      I am glad you agree!

      Liked by 1 person

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