Do You Actually Know What Others Are Saying About You?

If you listen to what your friends and family have to say and take it to heart, they may be a terrific source of feedback.

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Imagine a world where you had complete knowledge of what other people thought of you. Every time you interacted with someone, a notice was sent to your phone to let you know how it went and what you could do differently in the future. This sounds like it belongs in science fiction. This would make for a fantastic Black Mirror episode (if you have never watched it I highly recommend it). Perhaps you find the thought of this frightening, or perhaps you find it appealing. Alright, so there isn’t technology that can do this (yet), but self-awareness is a close second. Those who are truly self-aware recognise their own talents and flaws, but perhaps more significantly, they know what others think of them too. Awareness is a great thing.

Many advantages may result from this in both your personal and professional lives. You can develop stronger relationships, leadership abilities, presentation skills, influencing abilities, listening abilities, and more by becoming more self-aware. It’s interesting how many individuals think highly of themselves. overestimating their abilities or being blissfully naive of how their actions affect others. This post is for you if you’re curious to learn more about self-awareness. You might want to save yourself a few minutes if you believe you are already self-aware.

Have you ever pondered why a horrible singer was so convinced of their brilliance while watching X Factor, Pop Idol, or another talent show from the comfort of your home? If only their family or friends had spared them the humiliation. Usually, individuals viewing are made more amused by their misconception. When Simon Cowell expresses his specific opinions about their singing, the situation may worsen. The typical response to this criticism, which sounds something like “my mum thinks I’m a terrific singer,” is complete shock and occasionally fury. These people might have avoided this ordeal if they had internal and exterior self-awareness.

They might have a better knowledge of their capabilities in this area and how other people view their singing if they have gotten honest feedback. Self-awareness can be summed up as being aware of our advantages and disadvantages as well as our influence on and impact on others. This implies we may build on our assets, address our deficiencies, and, if needed, improve how others see us. Being self-aware is a superpower that can help you become the person you’ve always wanted to be! In any kind of relationship, self-awareness is beneficial. Think about being able to pay attention to your companion. Imagine being able to adjust your behaviour because you know exactly how it affects your partner. The ability to be self-aware is one that it allows you to be the person you dream of being!

So how do I find out what people think of me?

The proverb “a drunken man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts” is an old one. This suggests that during intoxicated conversations, you might have heard some insights about your personality. A sober man’s thoughts are a drunk man’s words. But, it’s unlikely that this method of getting comments will last. What other options are there then? This is somewhat influenced by the surroundings and the relationships you have with the people you need to get feedback from.

You might be familiar with 360-degree feedback from the office. This is a frequently employed strategy for gathering opinions from numerous distinct people. This’s strength may also be its weakness. This is due to the feedback typically being anonymous. This is fantastic since it may inspire individuals to provide more candid criticism. It also means that you are at a loss as to who to contact if you need more details regarding the feedback. You may make your request for input less official. This can be challenging since it might be awkward to request feedback, and others can find it awkward to provide it. But, you can ease the situation by stating that you want to improve and that candid criticism will help you.

You must, however, be ready to accept this criticism in the proper manner. You could only get candid feedback once if your tone, body language, or words come across as defensive. There are occasions when you can have a mutually beneficial relationship with someone else in which you can both provide and receive constructive criticism. Before you stand in front of 100 people and pitch your next big product, this can be a terrific method to refine that big presentation. Your presentation might be more engaging and your chances of landing a large contract might increase if you practise in front of coworkers who you feel comfortable with and who will offer you honest criticism.

If you listen to what your friends and family have to say and take it to heart, they may be a terrific source of feedback. Fans of Friends may recall the episode where Ross asks the group if he can practise his lecture with them after Joey loses his insurance. That scene demonstrates how receiving feedback from others can enhance a speaker’s lecture delivery. Ross takes some of the criticism well and finds some of it offensive.

Pause to consider

Reflection and journaling are two additional powerful ways to increase self-awareness. This is an opportunity for you to become more aware of your triggers and how you behave in particular circumstances. Once you are aware, you may decide how to react in certain circumstances such that your response has the effect you desire. It’s not necessary for reflection to be formal or to last a long time. You can either take a few minutes to reflect on the day or write in a structured journal. To do this, it’s critical to understand how others react to your encounters by paying attention to what they say and how they behave.

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4 Comments Add yours

    1. GS says:

      Hi, I am working with WordPress to fix this


  1. tanssityttö says:

    I prefer not to think about what others think of me. It makes me anxious. (Fortunately, I have already learned to get rid of this pretty well.) On the other hand, if I really knew how to act/behave, I wouldn’t have to be afraid of doing something wrong (which causes the anxiety).

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    1. GS says:

      New triggers can come anytime. You should embrace them because you have the annunciation to work with them.


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