The Sad Truth of Why Most People Don’t Follow Their Dreams


Despite Knowing They Should

Do you occasionally feel like you could be doing more? Like, life’s fine, but when you actually think about how quickly you jumped into the workforce when you first started, is this really what you had in mind? In the world of limitless options, you find yourself sort of, um, trapped when deciding what you want to do. When it comes to a dream, you don’t really have one, but you are aware that you want to accomplish more and that your employment isn’t fulfilling you. Great. You’re at the right place.

Dreams aren’t prefabricated. I didn’t realise this for ten years, but you discover your dreams while pursuing them. For as long as I can remember, I have read self-help books. The self-help style of Guy Raz, Mark Manson, James Clear, Atul Gawande, Carol Dweck, etc. But I didn’t recognise this was my life’s work until I had been writing for around 8 months. I had this dream. You must be willing to chase, and that is what it takes. The reason why most people don’t reach the 8-month mark is because they become anxious at the 8-day mark that something went wrong. To reach month 8, follow these steps.

  1. Laugh at negative thoughts – Discouraging thoughts come into my brain on a daily basis. It boils down to this: I’m not good enough. I don’t write naturally. I lack sufficient “raw talent” (whatever that means). This would be strong enough to stop me nine times out of ten. It would spiral: I’ve been writing online for many years, why haven’t I blown up yet? Am I not good enough? It’s a sign I should quit. But then I think back to something said by a woman who was ₹800,000 in debt and had no other option. From nothing, she was able to rebuild herself. How does she handle unfavourable thoughts? They make her laugh. Yep. Quite simple. If you have an unfavourable idea like any of the ones listed above, you should accept it, make fun of it, and then move on. Who knows whether any of those things are true, but if I allow those ideas overwhelm me, I’ll never be good enough.
  2. Disregard metrics – In the beginning, the metrics will destroy you. In the beginning, I would become fixated. I believed I would become viral after only one article. When that didn’t occur, I wrote more, more, more, and more. I read articles from people who said that if I updated my title, wrote more, kept things brief, and wrote for my audience, I could earn lot of money per week. All of those things were done by me, yet nothing changed. I ultimately just wrote for myself. I got popular. Because I was having trouble with them, I wrote about the topics I cared about in the hopes that it would be helpful to others. From my own experience, I wrote. I wrote this to better comprehend my own ideas. Don’t let your fixation on analytics cause you to fail too soon. You won’t see the rewards of your early work for months or even years; success is a lag metric.
  3. Pose better inquiries – I read books to come up with better question ideas. not the solutions. I’ll explain. I utilise books as examples of what has worked for others and as inspiration for potential solutions. I start posing better questions as a result. These are a few: Is it my lack of motivation or am I afraid of failing? What actions did I take in the past that helped me get over this fear? Is it possible to divide your writing into seasons? forming a habit throughout season 1. creating an audience for season 2. Better questions provide better answers, and as I’ve discovered, tenacity in pursuing your goals.
  4. Yearly patience versus daily impatience – Dream chasing is like a race. You must flee. You must have made an effort in order to reach month 8 and feel like you have any semblance of ambition. There is a true effort paradox. You must be relentless, yet various individuals interpret that word differently. Relentless doesn’t necessarily mean working 7 days a week from sunup to sundown. Relentless could mean working three days a week for one hour at first, then more. There is no getting around the requirement that you appear. But you must wait patiently for the procedure to finish. Nothing nice occurs before the tenth year.

Because of the misconception that dreams come pre-made, or at least not in my experience, the majority of individuals never pursue their aspirations. In my experience, you come across them in the middle of your pursuit. Once you have your dream, the next step is to realise what is required. Negative thoughts must be mocked, metrics must be initially disregarded, better questions must be asked, and patience must be practised. You’ll be too preoccupied pursuing your aspirations if you do that to worry about anything else.


9 Comments Add yours

  1. sicetnon3 says:

    From my perspective, unhappiness or the “unfulfilling feeling” is often accompanied by too much “doing” and not enough “being”. In some ways it is better to not have dreams but to let the dreams have you. This may seem at first glance to be an aimless existence until we come to know that life has its own goals, one of which is your happiness. To resist life’s goals for you will probably result in disappointment, regret and unhappiness. Any happiness you might experience is probably superficial and ties to social definitions of success and happiness.

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    1. GS says:

      I can relate to this. When it comes to “the flow,” allow it to happen effortlessly, meaning, allow things to come and go with ease. For me, I realized that it takes too much effort and honestly makes me miserable holding on to something that should be let go. Think of your emotions as a river or a stream. Rivers and streams are bodies of water that are in a constant state of motion. Comparatively, your emotions, thoughts, and things in your life are constantly moving as well. Things flow towards us and away from us all the time. When we allow the flow to happen continuously and rhythmically, we are most likely living very calm and peaceful lives.

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  2. John Jaksich says:

    My experiences tell me a lot of what happens in life comes from life’s misconceptions. Whether anyone can believe my conclusion comes to following: Life, as we know it, isn’t meant as a “Walk in the Park!” There are far too many vying for the same things everyone else desires. Oh by the way, I love a good picnic with a nice bottle of Cabernet—- but otherwise life will grow disproportionately harder within our lifetimes— ;(

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    1. GS says:

      And perhaps that’s why they say go with the flow. Don’t be too rigid.

      Most of the reasons for not following one’s dreams are based in fear; fear disguised as excuses is what usually holds us back. If you want big things out of life, you have to face your fears. Putting yourself out there is scary; a lot of people go far down the wrong path before even realizing that they have choices.

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      1. John Jaksich says:

        So true! Rigidity is a major issue for some personality types— you hit that squarely. Thanks for your insights!

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      2. GS says:

        Most welcome


  3. John Jaksich says:

    Love your blog!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for taking time to read it.

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