Why Do People Keep Repeating The Same Negative Scenarios?

Why not change the script. Here’s how to get past fear and create transformative change.

Many people ask me for guidance or information on what to do, how to use certain tools, what they should alter about their lives, or how to solve a certain issue. People frequently came to me with life issues, crises, and sadness as well as complete confusion about which path to take, absolute chaos and confusion, and no guidance at all. It was frequently feasible to gain insight into the erroneous assumptions, recurring patterns, and bad habits that led to a certain circumstance. Some of them were aware of their issues and recognised what they were. What to do with it is the next step. I frequently provided methods, techniques, and other resources to aid a particular person. When a person got the chance to remedy their problem and realised it, they fled. This answer was not at all what he wanted.

I’ve had the impression that some people just cannot afford my services, but there have also been moments when I’ve just wanted to provide a hand and offered my assistance without asking for payment. There was much more muddle. Imagine someone offering you a solution on a silver platter, but you reject it! People frequently choose diversion over activities that could actually affect their life, such as using services or publications that reinforce their beliefs. Until they ultimately decide that they WANT A CHANGE, they will run around and prefer to repeat destructive habits. I have a strong sense of intuition and can tell right away what someone is struggling with. I can tell him what the main issue is even without speaking to that person. However, that is not the issue. The largest issue is frequently the person’s true willingness to modify it. And nowadays, preparing for a change takes precedence than having the right expertise or skills to address it. Even if a place is hazardous or unfavourable for us, it is more simpler and safer to travel through it.

People may fear change for several reasons, including:

  1. Uncertainty: Change can bring uncertainty, and people may feel anxious about not knowing what will happen next. They may worry about how the change will impact their lives, and whether they will be able to cope with the new situation.
  2. Loss of control: When things change, people may feel like they are losing control of their lives. They may worry that they won’t be able to manage the change, and that it will take them out of their comfort zone.
  3. Fear of the unknown: Rather than stepping into the unknown, people frequently prefer to stick with what they already know. They could prefer the comfort of the known and worry that the unfamiliar environment will be worse than what they are used to.
  4. Loss of status: Change can occasionally put a person’s sense of importance or status at risk. A person could feel as though they are losing their standing or identity inside the organization, for instance, if a corporation restructures and their position is eliminated.
  5. Negative previous experiences: People are more inclined to dread change in the future if they have had negative past experiences with it. This may lead to a feeling of resistance to change.

How can things be changed?

  1. Define the heart of the issue: it’s not about what happened to you or the specifics; it’s about a strong emotion or sense of what the issue is really, for instance, dread, a sense of not being worthy, a fear of being rejected, or a lack of acceptance. It is possible to put it on paper.
  2. Be kind to yourself: Being kind to others is simple, but being kind to oneself is occasionally harder to do and less visible. We frequently judge, degrade, and insult ourselves. Be kind to yourself; most decisions are made with good intentions. You do well.
  3. Be mindful that you should always observe situations with the curiosity of a child, without passing judgement. It suffices to be present and give the situation room to show itself; you don’t need to seek a quick fix or try to explain the circumstances to yourself.
  4. When intense feelings or thoughts arise, breathe deeply. This will help you release pent-up, deeply repressed emotions.
  5. Allow for healing and change: Our bodies, minds, and emotions are all capable of self-regulation and healing; all we need to do is to give them the time, space, and space they need. Ask your body and mind to let go of anything you no longer need. Embrace the procedure. Avoid attempting to influence or manage it.
  6. Let it go: It’s crucial to comprehend the situation and to be conscious of it; if we maintain our awareness, a resolution and an understanding will materialise. Perhaps you need to give yourself some space, unwind, take a stroll, or rest and get a good night’s sleep.

It takes time, perseverance, and a willingness to face your deepest fears and beliefs to deal with the discomfort of a change. You can get over your concerns and realise your full potential by following these steps and being committed to the procedure. If you’ve made it this far, you should congratulate yourself since the first step in getting over a fear of change is to simply decide that you want a change.

Hi, I’m Garima and I write about life experiences. I have several books available on Amazon. Check them out today! Any purchases or KDP reads will be greatly appreciated. If you like my books, do leave a review. Here’s my author page on Amazon – https://www.amazon.com/-/e/B0BQDZXYNV


5 Comments Add yours

  1. Lori says:

    Well done. There’s a saying in the 12-step program that goes, “People will make change when they’re sick and tired of being sick and tired.”

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Yes that’s true

      Liked by 1 person

    2. GS says:

      They don’t care until they care

      Liked by 1 person

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