Emotionally Unstable Person


Could you recognise the warnings? Are you emotionally unstable?

Our lives are built on the foundation of our feelings. They have an impact on every aspect of life, including our interactions with others and ourselves. Our emotional relationships with others are the dearest ones we have in life. They are always there, but if you can’t connect to them in a healthy way, your life might end up being chaotic and muddled. Because of this, dealing with emotional instability is a very difficult challenge. It’s challenging to live when you can’t express your emotions in a healthy and open manner. Explosive responses, tense interactions, and even dangerous behaviour become the norm. The emotionally unstable individual speaks a second language: self-sabotage.

Being emotionally unstable is a frequent occurrence

Everybody experiences periods of emotional instability. Life is difficult, and the majority of us experience trauma, which can elicit intense and frightful emotional reactions in us. Now take into account the fact that many of us also don’t learn many lessons about how to relate to our feelings when we are young. Some people fall into emotionally unstable patterns for a very long time without that basis. Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, also referred to as Borderline Personality Disorder, is a personality disorder that develops when a person experiences emotional distress on a persistent or abnormal basis. It’s a condition that can drastically alter your existence. It alters not only how a person interacts with their feelings but also how they interact with other people.

With all of life’s complex turns and turns, a person who is genuinely emotionally unstable struggles. They can fight for a very long time to completely understand who they are and what they want because they are at once entitled and terrified of being abandoned. An emotionally unstable individual can find themselves caught between a range of extremes due to their unpredictably fluctuating moods, risky behavior, and mental health issues.

What does a person who is emotionally unstable appear like?

You can recognise the symptoms of someone coping with true emotional instability even without an EUPD or BPD diagnosis. The strength of knowledge. By recognising these symptoms in yourself, you can take control of your actions and gain more insight into your reactions. (with an eye toward improvement). Additionally, it strengthens your bonds with others and increases your empathy for people who struggle with emotional disorders.

Sudden Mood Changes

A person who battles with emotional instability will frequently exhibit unpredictable mood swings. Those who are coping with this risk being triggered and swinging into intense anxiety and irritability in the span of a single second. It’s all fine for a split second. then KABOOM! Moodiness, despair, and worthlessness. Where the balances fall is difficult to gauge, and predictions are even more difficult. Both the unstable individual and those around them should be aware of this. Triggers are either omitted intentionally or carelessly, causing strong and rapid emotional upheaval.

Irrational Entitlement

Emotional instability has more drawbacks than just mood changes. A irrational feeling of entitlement may also accompany those with this experience. An emotionally unstable person may develop the habit of demanding that others take responsibility for their mental state or the situations they place themselves in because they are unable to control and soothe their own emotions. More emotional effort is required to earn their regard.

Exaggerated Responses

You must be deeply in tune with your emotions if you want to control how you respond to life’s challenges. With someone who is emotionally unstable, that doesn’t happen. They lack the ability to regulate their emotions or their reactions to extremely strong emotions. When dealing with someone who is emotionally unstable on this level, you should be on the lookout for unforeseen responses that could traumatize, pose a threat to others, or just be very unsettling. Self-harm and suicidal ideas are examples of this.

No self-control at all

The challenges of overcoming emotional volatility are numerous and difficult. Having to deal with impulsivity is added difficulty after dealing with the emotional elements. The emotionally unbalanced may act impulsively and poorly for themselves because they are unable to control their feelings. These exaggerated emotional reactions and responses may result in dysfunctional coping strategies, self-destructive behavior, erratic behavior, risky or dangerous actions, or even overt thrill-seeking behaviour. There are a few various reasons why this occurs. These actions may be taken by the emotionally unstable individual to dull the intense emotions they feel are overwhelming them. Additionally, they might engage in these dangerous behaviours to escape from their feelings or to punish themselves for the (honorably) believed to be uncontrollable emotional states.

Unstable partnerships

Emotional stability is necessary for our interactions. Nobody wants to be stuck with someone who overreacts to everything and finds it difficult to control their own emotions. The result is conflict and frequently the absence of stable relationships for the emotionally unstable individual. It’s a warning to be aware of. You have to wonder what’s going on deep down if none of their relationships are simple or satisfying or if they quickly blaze through the relationships that are just on the surface. Rocky people need to establish rocky relationships. (On both sides of the fence.)

Lack of ability to calm down

Our ability to calm ourselves increases when we have a positive connection with our emotions. We are aware of the things that can reduce our anxiety or help us feel more at home and at ease in our bodies. (and in uncomfortable situations). Individuals with mental instability do not behave like that. They cannot control their escalating feelings when there is confusion, disappointment, or upset. Every element of their surroundings triggers a response in them, and they experience all the excitement that comes with those reactions. Couples, friends, and family members end up bearing the weight of this inability to self-soothe, which causes even more conflict in relationships.

Fear of Abandonment

Abandonment is not unfamiliar to those with mental instability. Their challenging behaviour is frequently the result of struggles and actual encounters with abandonment, both during their youth and in other close relationships. This may lead to a preoccupation with abandonment, which makes it harder to regulate impulses, experience mood swings, and feel hopeless. Though unintentional, this dread has the power to alienate people.
Signs of abandonment show everywhere when you live in constant fear of losing someone. This may lead to negative behaviour and heightened worries that worsen irrational responses, conflict, and turbulence.

States of dissociation

The trauma that an emotionally unstable individual experiences in their life cannot be denied. Someone who has been damaged by painful interactions with others can be found if you peel back the exterior. Numerous individuals who have emotionally unstable lives have learned to dissociate as a result of this trauma. As a calming technique, it. When you dissociate, you mentally distance yourself from a difficult-to-face event. Spacing out isn’t all that it is. Building a solid barrier between yourself and the feelings you don’t feel prepared to handle is what it is. What does this mean for the individual who is emotionally unstable? They are in a realm where they become detached from reality. This strategy can actually make things worse for oneself and one’s connections by (temporarily) relieving them of their suffering.

Finding our Solid ground

You can still build a strong foundation for yourself and your feelings, regardless of whether you have a diagnosis or are just getting over a traumatic event in your life. Your destiny need not be constrained by your reality. Even if you are unable to magically remove the significant emotions you are currently experiencing, you can still make changes for yourself. Establish a route to mental stability for yourself by:

  • learning techniques for emotional intelligence
  • establishing a particular support network
  • designing structures that can securely “lean in”

The most crucial spot to begin is always with emotional intelligence. This is not a genetic characteristic. It’s a collection of abilities that we must learn on our own. Learning about the ins and outs of emotions and how they work, how they affect us, and how they affect our bodies is basically what it is.

Learn about your feelings (from a psychological standpoint) and then consider how to interact with them more successfully. From this point, it is simpler to put together a personal support network of individuals who can improve your life. You can develop greater trust and vulnerability with friends, family, and partners if your emotional intelligence is better. Consider designing “frameworks” or structured approaches to your feelings last. These should enable you to emotionally open up in a healthy way. When a strong emotion arises, consider establishing a timer. Allow it to behave however it pleases up until the alarm goes off. Scream, weep, or hit a cushion. However, switch off the timer after it has finished. Get up, leave the feeling you’re experiencing, and write about it in your journal from a distance. Your emotional awareness and comfort levels will increase as you practise this.

Hi, I’m Garima and I write about life experiences. I have several books available on Amazon. Check them out today! Any purchases or KDP reads will be greatly appreciated. If you like my books, do leave a review. Here’s my author page on Amazon – https://www.amazon.com/-/e/B0BQDZXYNV


10 Comments Add yours

  1. sicetnon3 says:

    From my perspective, diagnoses are scientifically justified judgments of other people. They “miss the mark” in the sense that they help people know “about” themselves, but may not lead to “knowing themselves”.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes diagnosis is for awareness

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      1. sicetnon3 says:

        I guess it comes in different flavors

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      2. GS says:



  2. clararidings says:

    Fascinating and informative. Thank you for this well thought out artical.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for taking time to read my post. I am glad you found my post informative.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    As you probably know Americans are suffering from mental and emotional issues chronically. Unlike a physical wound that heals I think we learn to manage that internal health. I would like to say it heals up completely with time but I am uncertain. We manage it or it manages us. Hope all is well with you.


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    1. GS says:

      Hi Gary, I can completely relate to the confusion of whether we manage it or it manages us. Healing again is more on the lines of resilience, is it? Because I am sure it never heals completely, every wounds leaves a scar.


  4. John Jaksich says:

    An important post in an era where people need to better understand themselves… thank you!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for taking to read my post and leave a comment, John.

      Liked by 1 person

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