Because you’ve finally stopped hating yourself, since you are aware that true self-love entails more than just repeating encouraging statements to yourself, you keep yourself accountable.

1. You don’t feel guilty or sorry about allowing yourself to outgrow old versions of yourself, old relationships, old occupations, old cities, and old relationships.
2. You take responsibility for your mistakes. Since you know you are so much stronger than what you lack, you aren’t embarrassed to talk about or acknowledge your limitations.
3. You look after your needs. Not because of how it makes you appear, but because of how it makes you feel, is why you exercise. You consume a healthy diet because you are aware that your body needs certain nutrients to function. As a result of your awareness of the value of rest, you get enough sleep. You prioritise taking care of yourself because you understand how important it is, and you don’t feel like it’s a waste of time.
4. You don’t mind saying “no,” even if it’s only because you don’t want to.
5. Your awareness of your inner story is extraordinary. Your wellbeing is negatively impacted by negative self-talk, as you are aware. When you see yourself becoming critical of yourself, gently refocus your attention away from that thought process and return to treating yourself with more compassion.
6. You’ve given up being so critical of other people and now, when you hear about their mistakes, you react with compassion rather than disdain. Because you’ve stopped criticising yourself so much, it’s now simpler to provide that grace to other people as well.
7. You also think gossip is incredibly boring. You just don’t need to take pleasure in the suffering of others in order to feel better.
8. You no longer dread spending time alone. Prior to now, you detested the idea of spending a Friday night alone yourself. You truly take pleasure in being alone.
9. You no longer give a damn about what others think of you or of your life. You have your truth, and they have theirs. You don’t make an effort to persuade them that you are deserving of their love, that you are on the right path, or that the decisions you make are wise. You don’t think it’s worth your time or effort. Additionally, you are aware that, in the end, you only have power over your own thoughts and impressions.
10. You don’t stop yourself from having fun because you think it’s silly or not “cool” enough. You can read the books you want, listen to the music you want, and socialise with the people you want.
11. The approval of others no longer really matters to you. You no longer seek others’ opinions since you are aware that you are the only one who truly understands you and your life.
12. You hold yourself responsible because you understand that true self-love goes beyond repeating a list of encouraging words. You follow through on what you promise to do for someone else. When you set a goal for yourself, you put all of your effort into achieving it. And you try your hardest to make up for it when you fail.
13. You put as much practise as you can into being present. You understand that dwelling on the past or fretting about the future just causes you unneeded stress. Instead, you concentrate on the present moment, which you are discovering is the only one over which you actually have any influence.
14. You don’t shy away from requesting more from your partner or friends. By making excuses or complaining about how “needy” you are, you don’t lessen the importance of your requests. Knowing that you have needs makes you a human being, not a burden.
15. However, you also recognise that both your partner and your friends have their limitations. In the end, we’re all trying to save ourselves. Almost everyone has a difficult time in life. Usually, if someone is unable to give you what you need, it isn’t because you should have known better than to ask or because they are awful for being unable to comply. As a result, you now claim you understand and find a way to meet that need on your own when your partner or friends are unable to assist. because you are aware of your ability to constantly rely on yourself.
16. This does not imply that you put up with nonsense, though. After all, you now have standards. You have relationship non-negotiables. You are aware of your limits and the traits your friends and partner must possess. Respectfully severing ties with those that fall short because you realise they are not a good fit for you.
17. You don’t lose it when you get ghosted or dumped. Yes, you allow yourself to feel depressed, disappointed, and saddened, but you don’t blame rejection on a flaw in yourself. Because you are aware that sometimes you are not a good fit for other people.
18. When you mess up, you honestly apologise without providing an explanation. You take responsibility for your errors because you respect yourself enough to accept that you are fallible.
19. You are no longer compelled to text those who, in your heart of hearts, you know don’t care. They do not desire you. somebody you ought to avoid. You choose to erase their numbers instead and carry on with your life.
20. You permit yourself to be a person. You’re tolerant of your own faults, cry when you’re unhappy, get upset when someone wrongs you, etc. Because you are aware that authenticity and messiness are what actually define an authentic existence, which is far more important to you than appearing perfect anyhow, you welcome them into your life.
21. You’ve given up criticising and belittling yourself in an effort to motivate improvement.
22. When things go wrong, you cease attempting to numb yourself with alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, or whatever your vice is. As an alternative, you confront the discomfort and anguish.
23. You communicate with those who have offended you rather of keeping your feelings hidden and allowing animosity stand in the way of making amends.
24. But you also know when to let things go without a fight. Because you now understand that you are free to ignore everything that upsets you.
25. You pay attention to your intuition the same way you would your closest confidante. You are aware that your instincts serve as a guide and are therefore present.
26. You no longer attempt to persuade love to happen in the absence of love. No longer do you chase people or make do with relationships that are not quite right. When the other person is unable or unwilling to fulfil your request, you respect yourself enough to go on.
27. Because you understand that winning someone over isn’t the goal, you stop looking for affirmation by attempting to “win” them over. You understand that you shouldn’t have to earn someone’s love or acceptance. You accept criticism if the person doesn’t like you. You don’t make an effort to sway their opinion. Simply put, you let them go.
28. You adore your former self just as much as your present one. You realise that being who you were in the past was necessary for getting you to where you are now. You are aware of how much you gained from him or her, and because of this, you could never have contempt for those selves because they were the catalyst for your development.

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