Learned Helplessness


You are not your experiences. Make peace with your truth.

We all occasionally suffer from learned helplessness, which is a frequent psychological condition. It alludes to a tendency to accept one’s fate as inevitable and an incapacity to exert influence over outside circumstances. We frequently believe that negative things that happen to us such as failures, rejections, and losses are out of our control and that we have no way of preventing them. The typical thought process is as follows: “What did I do wrong? Why is it that I constantly experiencing this? People must not want to be around me or associate with me because of something about me.

And things can soon spiral out of control, and we may very easily acquire full-blown depression, if we are surrounded by others who regularly promote these views and make us feel even worse about ourselves. Even if we are unaware of it, the stories we tell ourselves affect the course of our life. Because they are unable to change their unfavourable opinions of themselves, so many people feel trapped or unsatisfied in their present circumstances. The people in your life might tug at you and hurt you, but if you don’t allow them, they can’t stop you from moving forward. You are what you decide to become; not what occurred to you.

Who exactly are you?

The psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Gustav Jung, who established analytical psychology, once said, “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” Jung believed that our past experiences, whether positive or negative, have the power to shape us in many ways, including our personality, values, and beliefs. He thought that rather than the experiences themselves defining us, it is how we react to them. In other words, it’s how we choose to react to the things that happen to us that defines who we are. Although personal events shape people, individuals also have the ability to direct their own life.

According to Jung, everyone has the power to transcend their past struggles and make substantial life changes.
He discovered that humans are active agents who can use their free will to make decisions and are not simply passive recipients of events or circumstances. Jung places a strong emphasis on the value of individual autonomy and the freedom to choose one’s own course in life as opposed to letting one’s experiences in the past or one’s environment dictate who you are. By facing our deepest fears, wants, and conflicts, we can all transform ourselves. We can learn more about ourselves if we have the strength to confront our prior experiences or internal challenges.

You are much more likely to see the positive side of any potentially negative situation if you see life as a sequence of events and chances rather than as something that occurred to you. Your decisions and deeds from today add up to who you are. Regardless of what happens in life, you have the power to decide how to react and who you want to become. Your choices in life, your pursuit of your goals, and the life you design for yourself all decide your course. The path your life takes is in your hands. Your future self may be influenced by the decisions you make today.

Make peace with your truth

To become who you truly are is the opportunity of a lifetime, according to Jung. Asking ourselves difficult questions and being willing to consider change are both necessary steps on the self-awareness journey. It asks us to face our apprehensions and appreciate the beauty of who we truly are. It is a privilege to reveal our identity’s underlying layers and develop into the person we were meant to be. Self-discovery can be difficult to navigate, and many people never make an effort to truly know themselves. On the other hand, discovering who you are and what makes you unique can bring about a great deal of satisfaction.

It is a gift to continue on this trip and learn more about who you are and where you fit in the world. It is an opportunity to live a clear and purposeful life and to become more self-aware. Jung claimed that “people will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” He held that in order to experience genuine personal progress, one must be prepared to confront their own shadows and bring their unconscious selves into consciousness. The key to living your truth is complete acceptance. This entails facing your unconscious mind and your personality’s dark sides. The parts of our personalities that we suppress or ignore, such as our negative emotions, impulses, and wants, are referred to as our “shadow.”

We can become more fully aware of ourselves and more whole by accepting and integrating various facets of who we are. Investigating your own implicit biases and prejudices might help you become more empathetic and understanding of others. You’ll have a better understanding of your responses to situations and a higher level of emotional awareness and control when you examine your emotions and motivations. You can awaken to your unique potential and sense of purpose in life by turning within and contemplating your own inner landscape.

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