How to Love Yourself When You’re Bad at Loving Yourself

The route to self-love is long. Consider the progression of your life over the years that have passed and the years that are still to come. In that period, your self-esteem will fluctuate like the moon’s phases. You will experience both moments of self-confidence and moments of self-doubt, sometimes over the course of years or decades. Everyone finds this difficult. All of us go through difficult moments, but there are ways to get over them. Even when your level of self-love is at its lowest, it’s time to practise self-love.

Consider yourself a human being – It is a vicious cycle to have low self-esteem. When you don’t feel good about yourself, you start to criticise yourself for lacking the other people’s seemingly limitless confidence. so that you feel much worse. Nobody feels good about themselves completely all the time, that’s the truth. No one, not a single one. As a result, be aware that you will occasionally feel awful. It’s all right. Instead of falling into that bottomless pit of self-hatred, simply pull yourself back from the edge. All of us feel bad occasionally since we are only human.

Recognise that others are not seeing what you are – Your chin hair and the creases growing around your eyes are visible. You can see the small scar on your forehead from falling off the top bed or the way your back fat protrudes above your bra band. Moreover, you are concerned that everyone is observing these activities and passing judgement. But you have that critical gaze on yourself. You’re using a magnifying glass that only you have access to to examine yourself.

Everyone is more preoccupied with themselves than they are with you, so what are you concerned about? There are others besides you. Other folks are worrying about what other people will think while you are. They are out of room to express an opinion about your wearing pyjamas to the grocery shop.

Accepting that when people appreciate you, at the very least verbally, they truly do so is the biggest step you can take towards liking yourself. Accept the compliments people give you. How? Gratitude is due. Avoid arguing. Don’t point up their errors. You might even start to believe it if you do it for a long enough period of time. And what’s this? By accepting it, you’re giving the person satisfaction.

Don’t listen to media that promotes self-loathing; our culture tries to keep you down. Everyone is shamed, but women are singled out for being there. simply for being you. You will therefore be dubious when listening to On Direction’s “What Makes You Beautiful,” which claims that “you don’t know you’re beautiful / that’s what makes you beautiful.” Is her lack of self-esteem the only thing that makes her beautiful? Oh my goodness, dudes.

All that negative self-talk? Treat yourself like your closest friend. You are not permitted to say such things to yourself if you wouldn’t permit someone to say such things to your closest friends. Okay?

Awesome self-love doesn’t just appear overnight. Fake it ’til you make it. It takes time. However, in the interim, act as though you are bursting with confidence. Wear what makes you uncomfortable. Invite the person you think is out of your league for a date. You will stop pretending after a while.

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