Not Successful Enough?


Do you feel that your success is insufficient?

It’s just another regular day till your best friend declares she will learn a third foreign language and a work colleague says they have been promoted. Although you are happy for them, you begin to wonder, “What have I recently accomplished or achieved that I can be proud of?” You continue to work and live your life, but you can’t shake the notion that you’re not successful enough. You frequently notice that a friend of yours has purchased a new vehicle while you’re scrolling through Instagram or Facebook, or that a member of your neighbourhood is on holiday soaking in the sun on California’s Carmel Beach. You feel down, bored, and boring all of a sudden.

This emotion might be related to the pressures put on people by society. How can you get past the notion that you’re not good enough? Your life has undoubtedly seen at least one accomplishment, so what is wrong with your confidence? It’s crucial to identify the root of your problem, either alone or with the help of a personal life coach, and to learn how to stop thinking negatively about your “unaccomplished” achievement. Do You Feel Insufficiently Successful? Here are six suggestions to get you started:

  • Determine what makes you feel like your success isn’t enough.
  • Avoid contrasting yourself with others.
  • Write down your strong points in a journal.
  • Honour your accomplishments, no matter how modest.
  • Examine your shortcomings
  • Strike a good work-life balance.

Determine what makes you feel that your success isn’t enough.

Nobody wins when they claim they haven’t accomplished enough or aren’t successful enough. Furthermore, you don’t say what causes you to feel that way, so it’s too general. Writing in a journal is one of the most effective ways to be specific. Write down the things you believe you haven’t completed on a piece of paper. Then examine your successes and “failures” to resolve your problems. Do you care if you don’t get a promotion, for instance? Check it off as you consider the potential causes of this “failure.” Do they match your reality, then? Do you believe you possess the skills required for a new role, or does your manager disagree? Making a list of your accomplishments and considering how long it took you to attain your objective is also beneficial. You might need more time to transform your supposed failures into successes. You also need to know that having both successes and failures is common. You can do this by grasping the duality of life.

Never assess yourself against others.

Have you ever used Instagram to compare your life to others’? You do it frequently if you believe your level of success is inadequate. It’s a bad habit for your self-esteem and confidence. It’s critical to keep in mind that your objectives, challenges, and circumstances are unique from those of other people. You can’t know exactly how someone else feels or how difficult anything was to accomplish when you compare yourself to them. A study that appeared in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology claims that the sad feelings connected to perusing them on social media are brought on by comparing our lives to the “fabulous” ones. People get dissatisfied with their own lives and demotivated to accomplish their goals as a result of the illusion of ideal Instagram lives. It’s important to understand that most people on Instagram only share the positive aspects of their lives and frequently conceal anything terrible that lies behind success. Reduce your time spent on social media if scrolling through the Instagram feed makes you feel jealous and destroyed every time.

Write down your strong points on paper.

Each person has a strong side and a weak side. Unfortunately, the majority of us are more focused on a skill we lack. As a result, we lose sight of our strengths, which makes us feel gloomy. We believe that we are incompetent and unworthy of praise. Stop undermining your self-confidence and concentrate on your strong points to make the most of them. Make a list of your strengths vs your weaknesses together with your accomplishments and disappointments. You could list your personal qualities, skills from your career, etc. Create a list that is as thorough as you can, then contrast the two columns. Keep the list close at hand to ensure that you don’t lose sight of your strengths and continue to create value to yourself.

Celebrate all of your accomplishments, big or small.

When achieving a long-term objective, we frequently overlook the incremental victories made along the way as we wait for the result to feel satisfying. For instance, it will take time if you are saving for a new car. It is crucial to acknowledge and appreciate each step forward towards your financial objective. Recognise all of your victories along the way, and don’t overlook the smaller ones. A huge victory typically entails a number of smaller ones, each of which is essential to achieving the larger objective.

Examine your shortcomings

We have a tendency to dramatise our ”failures” occasionally. It frequently depends on how something is seen. It’s a formula for your self-destruction if you experience depression each time you make a mistake or your friend accomplishes something you haven’t. Analyse your failures and the circumstances surrounding them to prevent self-destruction. All of it was dependent on you? Could you have done it more effectively? What abilities ought to you develop to perform superior the following time? Thinking critically about your mistakes will enable you to assess the situation objectively and without bias.

Find a good work-life balance

The development of a healthy work-life balance is crucial for both mental and physical wellbeing. Your general productivity in life and relationship success are influenced by how you’re feeling. You’ll be able to feel more accomplished if you’ve achieved a balanced existence. Remember that you can engage a life coach to accompany you along your journey and help you to sketch out the path to move you towards your final goal if you have any doubts about your capacity to achieve a healthy work-life balance on your own.

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