How To Fix The Adult Issues That Your Childhood Trauma Caused

Trauma causes our nervous system to tremble intensely and agony for years. It’s like an earthquake. Along with our sense of assurance, trust, and safety, our emotional health can be one of many casualties. We run the risk of total destruction every time we endure trauma. Sometimes, in the dead of night, when sleep is too far away to reach, we hear the echos of that destruction. Sometimes, when we least anticipate it and when we believe we are fully recovered, it pulls at our stomach.
The most harmful of all traumas, childhood trauma can result from any form of carer neglect, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or from problems in the home such a death in the family or a divorce. It affects everyone equally and can have a serious physical impact on an adult’s body. Trauma that occurs during our formative years can have a profound effect on how we live, including how we manage stress, control our emotions, and form relationships. Drug addiction, sleep issues, memory loss, learning challenges, aggression, abusive relationships, OCD, irritable bowel syndrome, anxiety, depression, self-harm, and terrifying PTSD flashbacks are just a few of the symptoms that it causes from the inside out.
If you experienced childhood trauma, you don’t have to keep repeating destructive patterns or pushing away good things and good people. Educator Randy Pausch from the United States once said, “It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.” This indicates that you may overcome your circumstances even if you were born into abuse, extreme poverty, or utter chaos. Although there will be difficulties, this only makes the successes more satisfying. How to finally end the cycle is as follows:
- Empathise with yourself -Anything that prevents us from allowing our emotions to flow is more detrimental to the healing process. It is always healthier to process our emotions, such as grief, guilt, fear, resentment, wrath, and humiliation, right away rather than allowing them to fester inside of us for years to come. Sadly, societal pressures can obstruct this flow of feelings and lead us to suppress them until a very long time after we should have recovered from the initial trauma. Do not forget that not all stabbing wounds must leave scars.
- Confront your demons – Possibly the harshest, but also the most essential, is this one. You undoubtedly have demons if you’ve experienced trauma. Healing is merely a fantasy if you are unable to confront your deepest selves. Although we have all felt shame at some point in our brief lives, this does not require us to continue to feel ashamed. Don’t try to ignore or downplay the effects of your experiences; instead, acknowledge them. They have shaped who you are now, and even if remembering them could be difficult, you need to know them to be ready for what comes next. Your childhood trauma was not your fault, but it is up to you to accept it for what it is and allow it fuel your growth so that you can become the finest version of yourself.
- Let go – The strength of forgiveness should never be underrated. The act of forgiving someone has very little to do with them; rather, it is entirely about forgiving ourselves and letting go of old, toxic energy that is preventing us from becoming the people we were meant to be. In addition to being a burden, grudges eventually have a detrimental effect on our physical health. While you’re at it, remember to extend yourself forgiveness.
- Take assistance from others – Our interactions with people are one of the harshest effects that trauma may have on us over time. It may lead us to put emotional hurdles in the way of the people we care about. Every time someone tries to provide a hand, it can make us spew poison from our tongues. We can gain insights that are different from our own by talking to a therapist or even just a willing friend. It can make it possible for us to be heard without fear of condemnation. We may receive the perfect solution through this compassionate interchange, or at the at least, we may be granted permission to talk through the disaster so that we don’t feel so completely alone. Sometimes only another person’s company can help a broken heart.
- Connect your thoughts and body – Because trauma leaves its mark on both our mind and body, using our mind-body connection can be very powerful. This ranges from somatic therapies like EFT and EMDR to cognitive behavioural therapy and yoga and meditation. EFT and EMDR are body-based therapies that focus on releasing trauma through movement and other types of nonverbal expression, whereas cognitive behavioural therapy is a sort of talk therapy that focuses on retraining the brain’s thought processes and false beliefs implanted by trauma. Experiential therapies come in a wide variety, including those using music, theatre, art, the outdoors, or animals. It is worthwhile to test out a variety of techniques because no two people will react to therapy in the same manner. Keep in mind that if you love your body and mind, they will reciprocate.
The road to recovery is never straight. It is a mess. Confusing. It turns around. It aches. But in the end, it’s always worth the trouble to let people in, to let go of old beliefs, to open up your emotions, to forgive those who have hurt you the most, to find your sad inner child and to love that person despite that. Because if you do, you won’t be able to change the past, but you will be able to improve the present and the future. If you do, you won’t be able to completely get rid of your pain, but you will be able to handle it better over time and finally turn it into progress. Trauma doesn’t necessarily start with us, but we can most definitely become victims of it.
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Thanks for the great advice!
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Most welcome
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Empathizing with oneself is always so hard. I always have to think of how I would react to my friends confiding what I’m going through to me haha
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Wow I think the same way. Yes it’s always important to look at a larger picture, you treat others with kindness rather than from our egos.
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“Every now and then I read something that is exactly the same as what I am experiencing, which is reassuring”. Perhaps that is another way of saying, “Every now and then I remember something I already know. That’s how I know something is true”. Still, that is just my perspective…not to be confused with the way things really are…
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Beautiful perspective though
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“Beautiful perspective though”. THAT is a beautiful perspective!
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😊😊
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Healing and recovery is indeed messy …a journey of a lifetime for many. Love your outlook.
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I remember the beginning like it was yesterday — the unraveling, as I like to call it. I had come undone, in every sense of the word. Like an onion, there was layer after layer after layer. I couldn’t believe there was even anything left of me. Raw, bare, naked, whatever you like to call it… that is what I was.
Thank you for reading my post. I am happy to found it relatable.
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