Being Real In The World Of Technology


I understand if using social media has been challenging lately. Consider these gentle reminders for today:

  1. Your use of social media, not the platform itself, is the enemy. What material, specifically, have you been spending time with recently? Consider your how and why if reading certain tales makes you think negatively. Is it conceivable that you are hiding an underlying insecurity? Is the route you envisage for your future self far apart from what you see in your social media feed? How have you recently been presenting yourself on social media? A little time apart may help you identify why your response to these questions differs from what you support offline.
  2. Friends on social media aren’t always friends. Fast digital connects, like emoticons or direct messages, are now simpler to read as signs of genuine connection thanks to social media. You should develop the practise of having enough self-awareness to recognise those who don’t deserve your openness or access to your private life, whether they are present online or offline. Don’t misunderstand me; social media may also foster true friendships. I’m speaking specifically about internet connections that develop into offline support and remote/in-person meet-ups. Be willing to set boundaries when required and your understanding of what it means to be vulnerable on social media.
  3. Pick what works best for you from the self-care influencers on social media. Take the advice you require and ignore the rest. There is an abundance of content online that is posted by people with personal, self-fulfilling agendas, even though social media has made it simpler to find articles written by reputable health professionals and therapists people who curate from the heart and work to connect you to external resources. Take into account the credentials and accomplishments of the curator(s) as well as the actual relationship that person has with the topic matter before you take advice from a social media account.
  4. The lost time cannot be recovered or regained. Social media has the ability to both improve and harm your physical and mental health. Monitoring your social media use allows you to actively create a better experience both online and offline. You might find it better to set a timer for 15 minutes or an hour rather than browsing for extended periods of time. You’ll know it’s time to pick up any unfinished tasks when your timer beeps. There are applications available now that can make managing your phone usage simpler (and more enjoyable!).
  5. Another important factor is the moment you decide to browse. When using social media when feeling upset, weary, or sleepy, you run the risk of responding to content less emotionally or presently than you might otherwise. Our level of self-awareness and our capacity to access our own life experiences, which contain all of the priceless lessons we’ve garnered along the way, are what distinguish a present answer from a detached one. Change up your social media activity timings if you frequently experience anxiety while online. If you often use social media in the early evening, browsing briefly in the morning when you’re more likely to be alert and attentive might help you.
  6. Not every comment section or direct message is worthwhile of your time. You might occasionally feel obliged to reply to a hater, a critical diatribe, or something that is contentious. Instant connection may be one of the many (good) advantages of social media, but it’s crucial to consider how much power you devote to the feedback you receive. Are you yearning to respond to topics that might advance a sense of community, satisfaction, global awareness, or cooperative activity, or is the fire you feel the result of a transitory urge to react? It could be simpler to improve your social media experience once you’re aware of your social media habits.
  7. Communities exist outside of social media. Again, read that. You may have thought about deactivating your social media accounts. You’ve been thinking about it intermittently, and here comes the breaking point. You’ve tried unfollowing accounts that don’t speak to you anymore and detoxing from social media. Nothing has worked, yet despite this, a small voice has persuaded you to hold on despite the fact that you don’t actually need to at the moment. More valuable than forced involvement is your well-being. If you just started forced social media connections, if you’re unsure of how your life would be without checking in, or if you’re afraid of losing out or being judged or losing your sense of community if you stop using social media, then this article is for you.
  8. Your feed’s purpose is important. It may be time to think about your postings’ motivations if you experience anxiety after publishing anything on social media. You may start by specifically asking yourself questions like Who are my major and secondary audiences?, Why do I publish for audiences x/y?, or What drives me to post? Lack of knowledge can cause perplexity and a sense of loneliness. One illustration of this is how we define the term “follower.” While a budding social media influencer would portray their fans as people who view their page as a useful resource, the nervous social media user—who is primarily motivated by the need to appear more likeable—might characterise their fans as total strangers.

In this case, the social media influencer possesses the self-awareness to recognise both the demands of their audience and their mission statement, resulting in a dual sense of purpose. In the meanwhile, the worried social media misses the chance to pinpoint their cause, in part due to their drive to satisfy their own demands and in part because their audience was never an audience only a desire to go viral for x or y reasons—which accounts for some of their failure.

The world’s largest roof, social media invites us to occupy one of its numerous homes. It’s alright if your social media detox differs from that of another person’s.Take all the time you need to do whatever is necessary to prepare for tomorrow.


5 Comments Add yours

  1. Thank you for sharing these gentle reminders with me. I appreciate the self-awareness and sense of purpose displayed by the social media influencer. It is important to be mindful of what material we expose ourselves to on social media. Thank you for the inspiration!

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    1. GS says:

      Absolutely Watani.


  2. Noe P. says:

    Thank you for sharing these gentle reminders for using social media. It’s true that our use of social media, rather than the platform itself, can be the source of challenges and negative experiences. It’s important to be mindful of the content we consume and how it affects our thoughts and emotions. We should also be aware of the boundaries we set for ourselves and the people we interact with on social media.

    It’s also important to be discerning about the sources of advice and information we find on social media. While there are many self-care influencers and wellness accounts that can be helpful, it’s important to consider their qualifications and credentials before taking their advice. We should also be mindful of the time we spend on social media and how it impacts our productivity and mental health.

    Ultimately, it’s up to each individual to decide how they want to use social media and how much time and energy they want to devote to it. It’s okay to take breaks, set boundaries, and prioritize our well-being over our social media presence. Thank you for reminding us that there are communities and sources of support outside of social media, and that we don’t need to rely on it for our sense of community and connection.

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    1. GS says:

      I agree Noe. It has the potential to blur the boundaries between our professional and personal lives. Sharing information inappropriately can be very damaging due to the speed at which it can be shared, the size of the potential audience and the problems removing content once it has been posted.

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