The Awkward Phases of Life

If you’re going through a strange stage in your life, read this.

Every now and again, everyone experiences a peculiar phase of life. One that they had not anticipated. But such is life. Even though we might not be aware of it, it alters us in several ways and sends us on a healing path. That much I can say with certainty. Rumi, a Persian poet and Sufi mystic from the 13th century, allegedly remarked, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.” On that point, if you are going through or have already experienced a peculiar time in your life, you might find the next few paragraphs helpful. You could benefit from it in the future or right now. Or provide you some comfort? You select your value; first, you must get internal validation.

Think about this for a while. How many times have you asked others for approval and how many times have you allowed others to determine your value? I believe your entire life. However, don’t you believe that you must first legitimise yourself? Once you stop criticising or criticising yourself, internal self-validation takes place. It entails letting oneself feel without critiquing how you are feeling or yourself. Your ideas, feelings, and thoughts are important. Your opinion counts. Never listen to those who claim differently.

And be aware of who you are; don’t allow others project their ideas of who you are onto you. As you can probably guess from my love of quotations, here is another from Beyoncé: “You decide how valuable you are to yourself. You are not dependent on another person to define who you are. You establish your value. What other people think of you is irrelevant. It is more than enough if you are aware of who you are and that your motives have always been good. So first and foremost, be aware of who you are and what your goals are. Stop seeking approval from others and start seeking it from yourself.

There are certain narcissists in the world who are like rotting pieces of meat with flies and maggots surrounding them, according to a video I recently came across on YouTube. You wouldn’t be able to taste spoiled meat, would you? Therefore, it’s more probable that they are transferring their pain, envy, and anger onto you when they try to make you feel unworthy and horrible about yourself. Even when you feel angry and want to react or retaliate, it’s best not to. Oh sure, that requires a ridiculous amount of restraint!

You are under no obligation to interact with them. They are only projecting and will do everything to make you feel guilty and worthless, but when you are fully aware of what took place and your objectives, you won’t need to feel that way. You understand your value. In actuality, you are really deserving! The next time someone treats you badly and you react by treating them badly in return, remember this. Don’t consume any meat that has gone bad!

It’s kind of important to face and get through worry and dread. Some forces are beyond you and what you can comprehend, despite the fact that you might not believe it or feel it. They’re guarding you. You are protected and led. But as long as you harbour such deep-seated worries about the future, you can only be so well-protected. but every little thing sends you into a panic attack. It’s time for you to take action. Start by realising that a tale is being created in your head. You’d probably respond that’s a lie if I asked you, “What if it all works out in your favour?” However, don’t you also believe that the question “What if everything goes wrong?” is a lie? These two scenarios are both made up and mental fiction.

So make up a new tale for yourself. Start by making a list of what is and is not actually under your control, and then start concentrating just on that. Stop being afraid of what is unknown. I am aware that it is easier said than done, and most of the time I fail. But you may start identifying how your mind conjures up situations and stories and realise that you don’t always have to accept them. It doesn’t have to devour you. You have a choice, and you may opt to hold onto good things. Recover. Keep your blessings and protection from being blocked by your worry and anxiety.

It is primarily a game of perception. It wasn’t a joke when someone claimed that 90% of life is how you respond to it. Unfavourable things do occur. Positive things also occur. How do you take them, though? What is your viewpoint? Do you embrace the truth, take what you’ve learned from it, and go on, or do you spend months fighting it and become imprisoned in it? Do you give yourself good or negative ideas and feelings? Anything you feed will grow. You’re feeding what? Here is one more quotation—the last, I promise. It is written by Ratan Tata, a businessman, philanthropist, and former chairman of Tata Sons: “Only its own rust can kill iron. The only thing that may ruin a person is his own mentality, same. He stated that years ago, and he was accurate. Everything begins in your head.

It’s true that there is a lot of trauma associated with everything that occurred to you or that was done to you; but, healing your trauma and carrying out the necessary inner work cannot be accomplished by simply thinking differently about the events. or seeing a therapist. I’m only empathising and providing some words of consolation; I’m not trivialising or generalising anyone’s misery. This is how you may begin your adventure; the rest is up to you to design on your own, perhaps with some assistance from others.

“Find Your Voice” is a collection of over 100 heart warming poems that will leave you feeling inspired and motivated. This book is filled with beautiful and encouraging poems that remind you that you can always find your voice in this world. Each poem is carefully crafted to provide comfort and hope in times of darkness and doubt. When you need a reminder of the light within you, pick up a copy of the book today.”


9 Comments Add yours

  1. killiancline says:

    Very well written

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you


  2. I’m working on internal validation. It’s so hard, bcz I have gotten used to extracting my worth from peoples validation and approval of me and I know it’s wrong. I’m working on loving myself. I’m reading Acceptance btw and im loving it, but since it’s such a deep book, im reading a little a day so I can soak in the words.

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    1. GS says:

      The best place to stop external validation is to start trusting yourself. I know it’s hard, I struggle with it too. Whenever you are in doubt, just remember the golden rule which is always think of your problem as something your friend has come up with. Now, think about the advice you would have offered to him or her. Apply the same to yourself. It will boost your confidence and will help you develop trust in yourself,

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      1. Thank you! That’s great advice!

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      2. GS says:

        Most welcome

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    2. GS says:

      The best way to read a book is slowly savourily every book. I hope you like it till the end.

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      1. True. Thanks. I’m sure I will love it.

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      2. GS says:


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