Pleasant Small Talk


I understand that small talk can be exhausting, but here are few methods which can help make them bearable at the least.

BE AWARE and REMEMBER. Each time you travel, practise listening. on a public transport. Remove your headphones, keep your eyes fixed on nothing, and pay attention to any discussions taking place nearby. in an eatery. along a line. Considering what you have heard, ask yourself: “If I had to speak to them, what would I ask?” Then, make an effort to recall some of the topics from the impromptu chat you overheard a few minutes, hours, or even days earlier. Then, pay attention to other individuals who are skilled at communication and see what they listen to and what they subsequently recall. ‘Hey, you mentioned you were going to the beach yesterday. Did you enjoy yourself? or ‘I hope it didn’t take you too long to have your driver’s licence renewed the other day.’ If you remember anything from your most recent contact with them, LISTEN and bring it up. Any meaningful discourse must start with that.

Join an improv group if you can! Because improv theatre games are a terrific method to practise the ability to speak spontaneously, just like you do in small chat and conversation, that’s exactly how I learnt to communicate with people.

Don’t be scared to share too much. If someone asked me, “How are you today?” I used to believe I spoke a lot. However, this may just be me. I would reply, “I’m fine, I was going to do this, but that happened.” This is excellent, I’ve come to discover through the years. There are instances when you just need to take control and offer them more conversation to work with.

Asking open-ended questions to allow the other person to speak for the majority of the conversation. Ask them questions regarding the topic they are discussing and related topics.

While their companion is inside a store, approach any elderly males relaxing in a park or on a bench in a shopping centre. You will feel more at comfortable just chit-chatting with older men since they will talk to anyone about anything.

Develop a genuine interest in the little topics that make up small conversation. In most encounters, you are occupying someone’s attention for a little period of time that they won’t remember afterwards. Be enthralled by the ramifications of such circumstances.

Try to discover as much as you can about the person you’re speaking to; that’s basically all there is to it. Make a lot of inquiries! Reduce the amount of times you talk about yourself, and even then, make sure it is pertinent to what they are discussing.

Recall that it requires two. While some people are more difficult to converse with, others will handle everything for you. Both of your and their efforts are important for the conversation’s flow.

The fake edition? labelling and mirroring. A lot of information is given to you. Yes, it was horrible when I went to the gym the other day. You said, “It was brutal?” They’ll continue speaking and developing their argument. That is mirroring. After they’ve said a lot to you, you sum up what they’ve said by saying: “It sounds like you’re very committed to being healthy.” They will thank you for the comment and continue speaking, so you will keep reflecting them until you identify anything to classify. There will be a brief exchange of words, but you won’t really be required to say anything. You might work in some material, but practising small chat is an excellent safety net.

Lessen your tendency to criticise your ideas. I believe that everything worth thinking about is also worth stating out loud. Just keep the truly bizarre things out of it, but don’t limit yourself because you think something could be too dull. Simply state it. Advance the conversation. Anything is preferable to simply observing and nodding.

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. Taran says:

    These are all very good tips. Speaking for myself, I generally hold ‘chit chat’ in the annoyance category, but over the years I have become good at it using some of the same things you express here.

    So that’s a little bit of an endorsement.

    I have a bit of fun connecting seeming unrelated things too. And for simple things, like when you ask what is usually the rhetorical question of, “How are you?”, sometimes it’s worth a moment and asking someone, “You’re not just saying that, are you?”.

    It’s really about connection, not conversation, and done right, that person will remember you were interested even if they had nothing to say.

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    1. GS says:

      Well said Taran. An authentic connection is a genuine connection with someone else — dropping the facade, showing vulnerability and sharing one’s true self. Ways to begin creating an authentic connection include sitting with another’s emotions, showing interest and listening deeply and without motive.

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  2. This is great advice! Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Most welcome. How’s the book Reading coming along?

      Liked by 1 person

      1. I’m enjoying it very much, thank you, but im reading it very slowly because im getting very tired.

        Liked by 1 person

      2. GS says:

        🤍🤍 sending you healing vibes

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