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As human beings, we are constantly interpreting the world and events around us to make sense of them, often through internal narratives we tell ourselves.

Unfortunately, many of us fall prey to the tendency to believe negative self-talk, or lies we tell ourselves that make us feel worse instead of better.

Here are some common types of harmful self-talk we tell ourselves:

1. Negative self-perceptions
   When we compare ourselves negatively to others, or have an unrealistic standard that we constantly fail to meet, we perpetuate negative self-perceptions. Instead of recognizing our unique strengths and successes, we focus on our perceived failures and shortcomings.
2. Overgeneralization
   A particular bad experience, such as a personal or professional setback, could lead to overgeneralization. The thinking could shift to “nothing ever works out” or “everything always falls apart”. The result is a harmful narrative being created that causes us to feel defeated and hopeless about the future.
3. Catastrophic thinking
   In moments of crisis, it’s human to ruminate excessively about the worst that could happen, latching onto fears of low-probability worst-case scenarios rather than focusing on assessing and handling the situation at hand.
4. Perfectionism
   This type of negative self-talk can lead to a pervasive feeling of never measuring up, even when our achievements are deemed to be perfect by most standards. This constant striving for perfection rather than setting achievable goals can easily turn toxic.

These self-perceptions, overgeneralizations, catastrophic and perfectionist thoughts become interwoven into our daily storylines and often impact our mood and overall outlook, preventing growth and recovery.

While these negative patterns of self-talk may seem rational and instinctive, they often create prolonged feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. Here is what we can do to turn these negative thought patterns around:

1. Challenge the thoughts
   Simply being aware that the negativity is just a story we tell ourselves can allow us to take a step back and evaluate the actual facts. Instead of assuming the worst, ask yourself if there’s a more realistic perspective to consider.
2. Practice self-compassion
   We need to be able to be kind and forgiving with ourselves, just as we are with our loved ones. Give ourselves permission to make mistakes, treat ourselves with kindness and prioritize self-care.
3. Focus on the present
   Rather than focusing on a past that has already passed and a future that is uncertain, focus on the present moment by practicing mindfulness. Savor the present and be receptive to the good things happening right now.
4. Seek support
   It’s easy to become isolated and overwhelmed with negative self-talk. Reach out to friends or family, or consider therapy or coaching services. Having a trained professional help us see situations from a fresh perspective or guide us through the toughest times can be beneficial.

Don’t let the untruthful stories become the focus of our narrative. We have the power to reframe the negative and start to experience greater positivity in our lives. By committing to examining our self-talk, practicing self-care, and seeking support, we can start to break free from the harmful narratives that keep us from reaching our true potential.

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