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“We are never going to heal.” These words might sound pessimistic, but there is a surprising amount of truth in them.

When we break a bone, it mends itself, but it’s never quite the same. When we experience trauma, we may learn to cope, but the memories may remain. When relationships end, we may move on, but there can still be lingering pain. In some sense, we are never going to be exactly as we were before a healing process began.

And yet, even as we acknowledge this truth, we must be careful to not let it defeat us. We cannot use it as an excuse to give up on our own growth and development. We cannot let it prevent us from seeking the healing that we need and deserve. Instead, we should see it as a call to embrace a different type of healing–one that doesn’t aim for perfection, but instead seeks wholeness and acceptance in spite of our scars.

The reality is that in this world, we are not immune to pain. We will encounter disappointments, hurts, trauma, losses, and other challenges that seem insurmountable. And while we may never fully “heal” in the sense of completely erasing the effects of those experiences, we can learn to live with them. We can learn to find meaning in our struggles, take responsibility for our own growth, and forge ahead.

To begin this type of healing process, it is important to start by acknowledging and accepting our pain. Sometimes, particularly in a culture that often seems obsessed with quick fixes and shallow positivity, we may feel pressure to downplay or ignore our tragedies. But true healing requires that we recognize and honor our wounds, that we allow ourselves to grieve and lament over what we have lost.

Next, it is important to acknowledge that healing is a process, not an event. And like any process, it has its ups and downs, its moments of progress and regression. We may feel strong in one moment, and overwhelmed in the next. We may feel as if we’ve completely “healed” from one experience, only to suddenly find ourselves triggered by something else. This is all part of the journey, and it’s important to keep moving forward even when it feels difficult.

Another important aspect of healing is cultivating self-compassion and patience. It can be tempting to beat ourselves up for not moving forward fast enough or for having setbacks, but this approach can actually impede our progress. Instead, it’s important to give ourselves grace and kindness, particularly during the most challenging times. Remember that we are doing the best we can with the resources we have, and we don’t need to have it all figured out to move forward.

It’s also helpful to surround ourselves with support and encouragement. This means intentionally seeking out people in our lives who will offer us compassion, listen without judgment, and help us find healthy ways to process our pain. This could mean friends, family members, therapists, support groups, or any other safe and supportive community.

Finally, it is important not to forget that our scars also offer unique opportunities for growth and contribution. Our pain and suffering can give us a depth of empathy and understanding that we may not have otherwise had. We can use this to connect with others who are going through similar struggles, to advocate for issues that are important to us, or to create meaningful art or writing.

In the end, perhaps the most important realization we can come to is that our scars do not define us. They are a part of our experience, but they are not the end of our story. We can learn to embrace and integrate our scars, instead of being ashamed of them or feeling defined by them. And in doing so, we can move forward with a sense of wholeness and meaning, even as we acknowledge that we may never fully “heal.”

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