Freedom from the fear of unwanted experiences will never be achieved by trying to control the behaviour or desires of others. Your freedom can only be allowed by adjusting your own vibrational point of attraction.
Without a knowledge of the Law of Attraction, and without a conscious awareness of what you are doing with your own vibrational point of attraction, it is understandable why you would attempt to control the circumstances that surround you. However, once you learn about the Law of Attraction, and once you are aware of the way your thoughts feel, you will never again feel fear about unwanted things jumping into your experience. You will understand that nothing can jump into your experience without your invitation. Since there is no assertion in this attraction based Universe, if you do not achieve vibrational harmony with it, it cannot come to you, and unless you do achieve vibrational harmony with it, it cannot come to you.
Even the smallest among you, your babies, are offering vibrations that the Universe is matching. And, like you, your little ones are influenced by the vibrations of those who surround them, but nevertheless, they are creating their own reality. Like you, they did not begin the creation of their life in this body once they were in it, but ling before their physical birth they set into motion this life experience that they are now living.
Reference : Ask and It Is Give. Esther and Jerry Hicks.