There’s no single formula for exuding an air of shit-togetherness. It’s one of those intangible things, like some sort of ~aura~ that makes you seem like you really have it together. But in my completely unscientific opinion, there are some little things things that convey that you’re doing just fine at this whole “existing” thing — even when you’re not. So here’s how you might be able to fake it:
- Have a signature accessory, clothing article, make up look, or hair style.
- Have a fragrance. Make your hair scents and lotions match your perfume.
- It’s okay to dine alone. Bring a book or people watch.
- Love your hair. Research the best brands for your hair type and use masks weekly.
- Your nails don’t need to be fancy, but keep them maintained.
- Stay worldly. Know works of art, artists, designers, films, books, politicians. Spend your lunch break reading the paper or a magazine.
- Crying is not a weapon. It’s okay to feel your emotions, but never use them as an excuse to avoid your problems.
- Jealously is boring. Love and appreciated others. If you can’t love them, forget them.
- Boost others. Flatter others, but don’t deprecate yourself in the process.
- Don’t sulk. Don’t let the whole world know your problems. If you don’t want someone to give their opinion, don’t share your situation.
- Your life is between you and the universe. Don’t post your personal matters for others to see.
- Don’t emotionally blackmail others. They hurt you? Let them know and then move on. It’s between the two of your and not the world.
- Cook dinner. Cook dinner and listen to music, the radio, or a podcast.
- Treat yourself to candles and flowers. Be your own cheerleader.
- Take naps. Take a cat nap on a Sunday afternoon with the blends open and the fan on high.
- Drink your water, eat your vegetables. Take care of your body.
- Never have time to take off your jewellery before bed, but always have time to take off your makeup. Your nighttime skin regime is important.
- Mystery is beautiful. You don’t need to reveal much of or about yourself.
- Never appear other than as you are. Don’t lie about yourself. Embrace who you are at your core.
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Lovely list and the wonderful eye catching terminology… “*&@-togetherness” …was delightfully charming. Great post, as always😊💖
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Thank you Suzette, I am glad this post resonated with you.
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It did. My pleasure.
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Great tips! I especially like the points about accepting and embracing who you are as a person. Don’t hide the traits that make you who you are, and show yourself kindness. Be your own cheerleader. I love that message! 😊
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Glad you liked the post Haley. “Unhappiness is not knowing what you want and then killing ourselves to get it.” – Don Herold
I think this quote from Don Herold is so powerful. Every week, I hear from people who want their lives to be different but when I ask them about it, they have no real clarity on what they want.
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I really did! And that’s a very good quote. There’s a lot of insight and wisdom to that. It’s difficult to obtain true happiness when you don’t know what actual happiness looks like for you. It’s different for all of us. A very powerful quote, indeed.
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I am glad you liked it Haley.
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And I’m looking forward to reading your future work! 😀✨
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Thank you Haley.
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No problem! 😄
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Sometimes I feel so frazzled and I envy those who seem to have it all together. I really like these…and am going to start using them!
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It’s hard to nail down exactly what it means to “have your shit together,” but you always know when you meet someone who does.
These people are functional and competent, but never pretentious or elitist. They make their beds and do their jobs and always seem to be level-headed about all the nonsense the rest of us conflate into huge crises. No matter what your personal goals are, at the root of them all, you just want to have your shit together too.
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Love this list especially about the hair, nails and dining out.❤️
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Yup, it all starts with selfcare.
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Great suggestions! Love this! 💕 aren’t we all just pretending anyway. Lol
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Yes we always are…hahahah…well said.
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I’m especially drawn to the advice about candles, flowers, and naps. And being our own cheerleader. Certainly, altogether this list should help us realize self-togetherness.
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You are absolutely right. When we wait for other people, the accomplishment of specific goals or the manifestation of ideal circumstances to create the excitement, joy and inspiration for our lives, we give away our personal power and live in an insatiable way. Cheering for ourselves with passion, and with a true sense of love and appreciation is not arrogant, it’s actually required if we’re going to live a life of fulfillment, gratitude, and meaning. Thank you for encouraging this thought in me. Warm Regards.
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