Why Do Good People Face Bad Things

The dilemma of the good person is not difficult to comprehend. Simply put, it is difficult to see the negative aspects of people when your mind does not naturally go there. A good person’s brain is wired to see the good, which frequently prevents them from seeing the bad. When you live your life as a good person, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that everyone else is doing the same. This, however, can be disastrous if a bad person enters your life and becomes overly comfortable with your goodness. Despite their good intentions, these good people are frequently surrounded by bad people who exploit their kindness and leave them exhausted and hurt.

To all the good people out there, you deserve better recognition for your generosity. I hope my words inspire you to consider the possibility of a better future, one in which you are respected and appreciated for everything you do. A future in which bad people simply aren’t good enough.

Let us discuss it.

Good people are more likely to forgive and understand those who have wronged them. They have big hearts and want to see the best in others, even when it isn’t present. As a result, they are an easy target for bad people looking to manipulate them for their own gain. Good people frequently give others the benefit of the doubt and believe that everyone is capable of changing. As a result, bad people take advantage of their kindness and repeatedly mistreat them.

Good people are more accommodating and less assertive than others. They want to maintain the status quo, avoid conflict, and make everyone happy. This can lead to them ignoring bad behaviour or making excuses for it rather than confronting it head on. They could be looking for approval from others. Some good people believe that if they can fix or assist someone who is broken or troubled, they will be seen as valuable and important. Because they want to be needed and helpful, they may ignore warning signs and red flags.

Good people rarely set firm boundaries.
They may believe that they do not deserve to be treated well, so they put up with bad behaviour from others. This sends a message to bad people that poor treatment is acceptable, and the cycle continues. Being a good person, on the other hand, isn’t the only reason bad people are drawn to you. It is not your fault that others choose to act badly, and you should not feel guilty for being kind and loving. Simultaneously, it is critical to recognise your role in the dynamic and accept responsibility for how you respond to bad behaviour. If you find yourself constantly attracting negative people into your life, it’s time to step back and reevaluate your boundaries.

Being overly forgiving and accepting of bad behaviour only reinforces your willingness to be hurt.
You’re saying to the bad people in your life that it’s okay to mistreat you because you’ll always be there to forgive them. Being a good person does not imply putting one’s own well-being first. It is critical to establish boundaries and communicate your expectations clearly. It’s okay to let someone go if they repeatedly cross your boundaries or mistreat you.

Surround yourself with positive people.
Being around positive, supportive people can help you build self-esteem and establish healthy boundaries. It can also serve as a reminder that good people exist and that you are deserving of good treatment. However, the most important aspect of being a good person is not how you interact with others; it is how you treat yourself. Being good to yourself entails shielding yourself from those who hurt and betray you, releasing them from your life when they’ve crossed your boundaries, and putting your well-being first. Self-care and self-love should be practised.

Good people frequently disregard their own needs in order to help others, but this can lead to burnout and resentment. Taking care of yourself and putting your happiness first can help you be a better, more effective helper to others. Being a good person is a two-edged sword. While kindness and compassion can bring light and positivity to the world, they can also make you a target for negative people. What can you do to make yourself less appealing to bad people? It’s simple: first and foremost, take care of yourself.

Protect yourself from those who hurt and betray you, and don’t be afraid to let them go if they’ve gone too far. It’s critical to demonstrate how you want to be treated by being firm and setting clear boundaries. You always have the ability to alter the dynamic. You can break the cycle of attracting bad people into your life by setting boundaries, being assertive, and prioritising your own well-being. This will allow you to cultivate healthy, positive relationships with those who truly deserve your love and kindness.

Remember that being a good person does not require you to be a doormat.
You can be kind and loving while also advocating for and protecting your own well-being. Being good to yourself is, in fact, the most important aspect of being a good person. You won’t be able to spread love and kindness to others if you’re not happy and healthy. You should not blame yourself for attracting negative people into your life.

Instead, take responsibility for how you respond to their bad behaviour and prioritise yourself. It is your responsibility to ensure that you are treated with love and respect. So be the nicest person in the world, but don’t forget to be nice to yourself.

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12 Comments Add yours

  1. I really like this post, very insightful, I just was wondering, if you consider decisions made during active addiction to be soul binding determinations of good or bad? Just a point that came up because of my own struggles, and wanted your perspective.

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    1. GS says:

      The strength and characteristics of a binding are determined by the mind’s and body’s strength and characteristics. A saatvik state is caused by an illumined mind. A tamasik state is reflected in an impure mind. But controlling one’s mind is the most difficult task in the world. Nobody has complete control, but the effort to achieve complete control can cause the necessary changes in the nature of the binding.

      Life is governed by both spirit and matter. Both have an impact on one’s quality of life. However, no quality is ever permanent; it changes. It’s a good thing, because change is the law of nature.

      Hope this helps a little

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  2. Wow!! I saw myself in this. I really need to set more firm boundaries. Thanks for sharing this. Didn’t know I needed this.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Nicole Smith says:

    I am a good person learning to set boundaries. People do not like to be told no. It is an adjustment.

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    1. GS says:

      I can relate to people not liking my boundaries. Many people would prefer that you shoulder the blame for their emotions. If a person is young or emotionally immature, they may feel that you should shield them from pain, misery, or disappointment.

      Since so many of us, especially women, have the fundamental conviction that earning the acceptance of others is our obligation, when people don’t like our boundaries, we might become very perplexed.

      You will let the other person’s upset dictate your behaviour if you don’t feel firmly rooted in your values and believe that you have a right to take care of yourself.

      Knowing your limits, upholding them, and accepting full responsibility for adhering to your own boundaries is the kindest, most giving, and most caring thing you can do for the people you love.

      Tell the other person that you understand their distress but that maintaining your boundaries is crucial.

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  4. riyab82 says:

    I felt like I am reading a deep analysis about my own self. I keep saying most of these things to myself but I’m still on the road to actually applying self-care and setting boundaries etc. Thank you so much for writing this wonderful article. I know it will help me in my journey…….

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    1. GS says:

      I am so glad you found my post informative and helpful. I am on my self help journey too.

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Sylvia says:

    You are absolutely right.
    I like the last line; be the nicest person, but don’t forget to be nice to yourself.
    Sometimes, people focus so much on making others happy that they forget to make themselves happy too.

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    1. GS says:

      Correct. We need to take care of ours;eves too. We can’t pour from an empty cup.

      Liked by 1 person

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