The ways of thinking or mantras that improved my life. It’s commonly believed that personality is something we get from our parents. a constant, real facet of who we are. Yes, some aspects of personality are influenced by DNA. Yet, our thoughts and beliefs account for 95% of the rest of who we are and how we behave. And depending on how we choose to use our thoughts, we can have a completely different experience. The following mantras or ways of thinking can improve your life:
All outcomes have no impact on me.
Being content with whatever comes of things is one of the most endearing qualities in a person. They do not depend on the outcome. When we maintain composure in the face of setbacks, others appreciate us more because it creates harmony (and defuses) the situation. The task is not always simple. We feel less stressed, are more creative, and have a greater regard for ourselves when we practise outcome independence every day. We sigh and carry on if something doesn’t work out.
Others are free to act and behave however they like.
Try feeling extremely stressed out by wishing that other individuals had acted in a different way. When we find ourselves in a situation we want to change but are aware we cannot, it is intrinsically frustrating. The answer? Recognize that you don’t have the power to influence anyone or anything. The best you can do is accept that some people will act in a way you disagree with and put all of your energy into improving yourself. For instance, if you are a parent, your children do not yet have full agency; hence, you still have some control over their behaviour. For everyone else, though, take comfort in the fact that you are powerless to compel them to do what you want.
For now, I’m OK with who I am.
Many of us carry insecurities with us throughout life. These judgements of ourselves came mostly from the opinions of others. We accepted the seriousness of these claims and believed there was a problem with us. But because criticism or judgement is by its very nature a manufactured, human-made meaning, it can never be connected to the reality. There is nothing but IS when artificial meaning is not present. We just are. We’re OK. We lack morality. We just are what we are. Moreover, self-compassion takes the place of criticism as our default emotion. Love for ourselves occurs naturally and without outside help.
No one needs to do anything for me.
Why would you require something from a specific person? Without a certain, no one else has what we require in terms of psychological needs. We don’t require approval, admiration, or assistance. Although it’s good to feel affection and awe, we shouldn’t rely on it. If we do, our happiness is immediately dependent on the decisions and actions of others. This makes us more vulnerable. Also, it gives off a needy vibe, which alienates people from us. Absolutely, especially in a material sense, other people do occasionally have what we desire. Nails in a bag. an onion. Some direction. And if they don’t, we can unwind and trust that the next person will find them in good hands. Nothing major. The same is true if you require anything else from a certain person. You are not in need. You are unbound.
Nobody can say anything to me that would bother me.
Do you think this is a touch nihilistic? rather passive? Simply highlighting the disparity between your emotional state and the apparent meaning of someone else’s words, this is all I’m trying to communicate. The idea that the two must come together causes a great deal of suffering. Not at all. Anyone’s words reflect on them. They each have their own individual perspectives. It doesn’t matter if they are “correct” or “wrong,” either. You are not in this place to dispute. You are merely taking in other people’s verbalised thoughts. You are not free if you allow such thoughts to have an impact on you.
Right now, I know everything I need to know.
Many of us, including myself, become anxious before situations that call for quick thinking (especially when the perceived stakes are high). Being asked on a date or being asked to participate in a podcast are two examples. We want to be successful, but some of us don’t have confidence in our capacity to speak up when it counts. So we become worried. Understanding this one principle, which is: We will know the words to say when we stop thinking we won’t know what to say, really helped me a lot in circumstances like this. We are aware. We may access our genuine intelligence when we unwind and stop putting ourselves under pressure. It takes a lot of faith to keep our knickers out of twist over what to say or do. Do things slowly if we begin a new endeavour or business. This innate knowledge will lead you at the time. Believe that you will receive what you require when you require it. And it frequently shocks both you and people around you.
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