Knowing this will help you care less about what other people think about you. I constantly fret about what other people think of me.

When I’m in public, I worry about how I behave and how I appear. I fear that I’m not funny enough, that I can be too serious, or that those close to me can see how painful my neuroses are. I worry that despite reading a fair amount of self-help material, I will never be able to let go and just unwind. I also wonder why I keep treating everything and myself so seriously. I experience depression because I am restricted, undeveloped, and reclusive.
I am aware of how much more I am capable of. I am aware that I consistently fall short of achieving even 8% of my ability.

I have two options: either I stay where I am or I find a means to get out of this mental quagmire. How can I just put my feelings aside and have fun? By being who you are… I’m joking. This has been said a zillion times before. Simply grin. “You’re just a human,” Just be who you are. Yeah, yeah. On the surface, everything makes logic, and for about seven seconds, it’s heartwarming. But how do we actually take this in? How can we ultimately express ourselves without fear and how do we actually change? The best way to “just be yourself”

I’ve discovered that altering your philosophy your perspective on what life is all about and being consistent with a new one are the two most important things you can do to make this start to stick. Your present way of thinking is along these lines: “The right thing is to be a GOOD person… “I must therefore conceal anything about myself that is NOT GOOD because being good* is essential. *Or alternative spellings of the word “good,” such as “deserving; positive; happy; adjusted, normal, fun,” etc. Here’s the problem, though. We all have qualities about ourselves that we don’t like. Things we have said in the past that have harmed or made no sense. Things that we did lacked fortitude. Things that we did that we lament, feel ashamed about, and are embarrassed about.

We realised we weren’t “good” individuals as a result of things other people said to us. So we are aware, deep down, that we do not conform to the ideal conception of what is “good” that we have. We know it from experience and on a fundamental, primordial level as well. None of us are and never will be completely “good” individuals. Currently, life has an added barrier on top of all its difficulties: We must conceal as much of who we are as possible that we perceive as not being “good.” This results in tension. It depresses us to deny it and act “nice” all the time. We wish we could let go of our concern, but we just can’t. We don’t dare admit our shortcomings.

And therein, my buddy, is the root of the issue. We have something to conceal that requires effort. What is the answer? Do we have to come out from hiding? Actually, no. By doing so, you would be adding the additional responsibility of attempting to “not hide.” That requires effort. Thinking differently is the answer. Recall your present mindset, please. Being a good person is the correct course of action. Your new outlook is as follows: “Like everyone else, I have flaws, weird quirks, and crazy things.” I’ll say it again: I’m imperfect, odd, and crazy, just like everyone else. With this new knowledge, you won’t need to hide anymore, particularly if you regularly think about it.

You are less likely to worry about what people might think of you if you don’t have to conceal. Naturally, this is a great concept, but it will take a lot of time to really embed this way of thinking in your mind. The truth of darkness is what we first consider. Everybody has flaws. In this universe, there is evil and darkness. Things could be bad. Individuals commit evil acts. We are all susceptible of evil, which is where it gets a little strong. However, this is crucial, and not many people discuss it. This is the real issue we are trying to conceal. Even if we haven’t even begun to define what “bad” is, we all know that we are capable of being it.

We are aware that we must conceal actions that fall within the realm of what we perceive to be “evil.” We have been doing this throughout the entire period. Being and trying to seem “good” and “normal” is a very human and reasonable reaction to the knowledge that we, as people, are capable of doing terrible things. But to fight against our dark side is to fight against our very essence. To be illogical is to do it. Non-human is what it is. What occurs when we are able to face our greatest fear? We start to see how similar we are to everyone else. We are no longer an oddity, wanting to blend in like polite, nodding sheep. As humans, we exist. Oneness unites us.

Your coming to the following understanding will move you towards leading a healthy life:

• accepting accountability.
• embracing your imperfections without feeling the need to conceal them (or to flaunt them either).
• letting go of your guilt and embracing your humanity without apology.
• Last but not least, you should start embracing your own uniqueness.

It might sound paradoxical, but once you accept that everyone else has flaws and is insane, including yourself, you are free to discover what makes you unique. The following move is to: Embrace the activities you once believed people would refuse or find strange. Why is it that once you accept your humanity, being odd gets easier? Since being odd is a part of being human. It’s acceptable to be odd. Being irrational is acceptable. It’s okay to be surprising. It is acceptable to defy accepted “normalcy.” This isn’t a free pass to anarchy, and you’re not doing these activities to be the centre of attention. And it doesn’t have to be if you can identify what motivates you in a manner that fuels your own inspiration. (and therefore others).

It might sound paradoxical, but once you accept that everyone else has flaws and is insane, including yourself, you are free to discover what makes you unique. The following move is to: Embrace the activities you once believed people would refuse or find strange. Why is it that once you accept your humanity, being odd gets easier? Since being odd is a part of being human. It’s acceptable to be odd. Being irrational is acceptable. It’s okay to be surprising. It is acceptable to defy accepted “normalcy.” This isn’t a free pass to anarchy, and you’re not doing these activities to be the centre of attention. And it doesn’t have to be if you can identify what motivates you in a manner that fuels your own inspiration. (and therefore others).

Discover what that entails for you, and make it your passion. Be the lunatic you know you are when you create. Increase your zeal for that item threefold. Strive to achieve that goal as if your life relied on it. ‘Follow your own strange,’ I said. Broughton, James. Follow your goal with tenacity. Continue doing this up until the world is forced to pay attention. Nothing to be ashamed of. Your oddness makes you happy. Your efforts are focused on producing amazing and lovely objects. This brings pleasure because it paves the way for others to follow in your footsteps and liberates them from the shackles that you already know so well.

The magic lies here. It’s not about not caring; it’s about not giving a f*ck. To help others is the goal. You do it to demonstrate the meaning of independence to others. You’re engaging in your passions in order to inspire others to live fully. Your actions are to show others how it’s done. Looking away from you. You are no longer self-concerned. (the source of stress). You are shedding a great deal of light on what it means to be a living person.

Recognize that you are, by default, strange, crazy, and a little “bad,” just like everyone else. In our ridiculous, flaw-filled individuality, we are all the same. You’ll feel energy within you once you’ve internalised this idea. You’ll also be set free.

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