We live in a lying culture.

How much would you say you are unapologetically yourself, on a scale of 0 to 10, if you could place a number on it? Do you express your true views to others or just the politically correct version that has been watered down? When you have a goal in mind, do you pursue it without regard to what others may believe, or do you hold back out of fear of what they may say? Do you attempt to look at yourself as objectively as you can, both the good and the bad, or do you try to make sense of your circumstances? How much of your time is truly spent as, well, you?

Consider These Answers (Your Life Depends On It)

Most issues in life are caused by one of these three things.

• We are either ignorant of or not completely accepting of:
• What we want and who we are
• People we want to be friends with

This prevents us from working towards our real objectives, establishing boundaries with others, and presenting our finest and most assured selves to the world. Adopt this motto if you want to make this right: You should believe that you have the right to do whatever the heck you want as long as you are not harming anyone.

• Not what the public desires.
• Not what your parents want, either.
• Not at all what I want.

There is no right or wrong response for each group; the only thing that matters is that your responses come from the perspective of not caring about other people’s approval, which is one of the hardest—yet most rewarding—things you can ever learn to do.

How Do You Feel? Not the person you want to be. Not the image you attempt to present to the public. Truly, who are you? The secret to obtaining what you want is to be brutally honest with yourself. Because you can navigate properly once you’ve got that portion under control.

• What are your advantages and disadvantages? What are the things you succeed at more easily than others and what are the things you’re so bad at it’s not even worth trying to improve? What are your inclinations telling you is simply not going to happen?
• What makes you angry (and what does that reveal about you)? Your complaints and grudges typically mirror something about your character back to you, which is why you feel it in the first place.
• What makes you anxious? It doesn’t matter if it’s skydiving or bookkeeping, which I personally find boring. Even if it’s not trendy or seductive, hold onto what makes you feel alive. I enjoy learning. I’m interested. It excites me to explore concepts.
• What regrets do you have, and what does that reveal about you? Your greatest regrets frequently result from hiding who you really are. You made an unwise decision. To prevent disregarding this inquiry in the future, respond to it.
• What about yourself do you want to remain a mystery? Everybody has a dark aspect. A aspect that we want no one to be aware of. Jung refers to it as the phantom. Everyone appears to be human, but we all have a deep animalistic nature.

To incorporate your silhouette into who you are is the objective. Know every situation where you could be harmful. Be aware of all your motivations. Afterward, realise that energy can be focused and redirected. I’m quite a power-hungry, cunning, and deceptive person. Some readers have noted that my work has a bit of a gloomy tone to it, even if it doesn’t quite border on cynicism. I make an effort to channel my more aggressive traits towards creativity and leadership, and I at least attempt to do good while I am able to influence others. Decide who you are and remain loyal to all aspects of yourself.

Why are you telling yourself lies?

When you suggest that someone may not be living their life exactly as they would like, some people may become combative. Nobody is requiring you to drive a Lamborghini or be a movie celebrity. Though, come on. When you were a child, did you really imagine yourself as a “account executive”? Or stop the cap, as the youngsters like to say. Several additional contentious viewpoints Your choices determine how faithful you can be.
If you had a secret knowledge that you could acquire:

• Any partner you desired
• Any group of pals
• Every position you desired
• Any enterprise you wished to launch
• Any objective you had in mind for the future

Your daily routine would be very different. You need not inform me the location of your new home. The solution is already known to you. The majority of people’s lives are influenced by proximity and ease. Everything they have in their lives, their job, their spouse, and their friends, just sort of happened. They went with what was accessible and close by. Oof. Again, this is all a result of the fact that if you choose to pursue (in your view) the best of everything, society will react negatively. You’ll hear insults like “superficial” and “arrogant.” “LIfE iSn’t All AbOUT suCCEss Ya kNOw,”.

In the audience, there will be individuals who seem to have a lot to say about happy people who are content with their lives but who are feigning modesty, contentment, and gratitude. (content people just silently continue to live their content lives instead of commenting at all). You would pursue your true desires and not give a damn about what other people thought if you embraced who you really were. The majority of us, however, let culture determine who we are and what we should do. Without questioning whether or not the individuals who created the guidelines in the first place are even aware of what they are doing (they are not), we act in a manner that is considered acceptable by society. I’ll share a quick technique with you that I find useful. After being accused by someone you know. They have my support. The discussion loses all of its vigour because of it. “ Money and status are all you care about.” Yup. Correct. Anything more? Bye.

Without questioning whether or not the individuals who created the guidelines in the first place are even aware of what they are doing (they are not), we act in a manner that is considered acceptable by society. I’ll share a quick technique with you that I find useful. After being accused by someone you know. They have my support. The discussion loses all of its vigour because of it. “ Money and status are all you care about.” Yup. Correct. Anything more? Bye.

Birds of a Feather

It’s not necessary to be machiavellian about it and get rid of everyone in your life who isn’t 100 percent effective, but it’s a good idea to consider the connection between your social circles and the results you’re experiencing in life. Because there are few connections that are more strongly correlated than this one.

• You’ll develop greater confidence and security if you associate with other confident and secure individuals.
• You’ll start to gossip and complain more if you hang out with insecure individuals who do the same.
• You will develop into a determined and effective leader if you surround yourself with them.
• You’ll party more and work less if you hang out with individuals who prioritise leisure, drinking, and partying over work.

Even if you are able to transcend your surroundings in some way, it would require too much effort to be worthwhile. The nature of relationships varies over time. The individuals you choose to spend time with naturally change as your priorities do. It isn’t malevolent. To live the existence you want to live, it is simply the way things must be. Additionally, you must consider this… Why would you want to spend time with someone if you have to put on a false front to make them like you and want to hang out with you? When you accept who you are, your viewpoint begins to change.

You’re more interested in whether or not you’ll like them than in whether other people will like you. You are the one determining whether or not they are a suitable fit. You are choosing whether or not you want them in your world. That final clause is crucial. When you accept who you really are, you stop responding to the outside world and start living in your own universe.

Be thoughtful, charitable, and kind, but most importantly, be YOU.

Nothing I’ve said here should be interpreted as being impolite, haughty, or snobbish. You can retain your self-respect while being kind and courteous to everyone you encounter. You can be authentically you without demeaning other individuals. In actuality, those who put themselves in the centre make for more enjoyable company. Since they don’t need your approval, they interact with you in a straightforward manner without any ulterior motives. They don’t need anything from you because they are confident in themselves, and that absence of dependence is alluring.

A “cool” person is simply someone who lives their life, loves it, and wouldn’t mind if you joined them, but doesn’t care if you don’t. The universe revolves around them. Instead of focusing on how others perceive you, you need to practise seeing things from your own perspective. People move towards you when you start doing what you want, without apologising. They desire your assurance and surety. In a society filled with repressed individuals who fervently seek approval, it is refreshing.

The universe gets out of your way as soon as you take action without giving it much thought. It’s similar to simply strolling into a bar without flashing your I.D. and staring the bouncer in the eye. Confidence causes people to respect you. Naturally, use that power for good, but spend the remainder of your time attempting to develop the ability to always do what you want, when you want.

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