The Perfect Explanation of Letting Go.

People cling to practically everything

Our innate tendency is to grasp at other people, emotions, beliefs, and material things. Being tied to anything makes it difficult for us to break free. We can pause and ask ourselves, “Why?” Why do we cling so firmly? We are empty entities if we look at ourselves objectively. Everything we am, see, and perceive about ourselves is a complete illusion. We are left with nothing but our body and an oddly formed, continuously beating organ if we place our thoughts and feelings outside of ourselves. In other words, we are empty.

However, we are afraid of emptiness. As a result, we rely on our thoughts and feelings to determine who we are. Having said that, interactions with other people, our convictions, and financial possessions all stimulate our cognitive being and help us to better define who we are. Our principles and beliefs helped shape who we are. We’ve held onto them so firmly that we’re willing to kill and battle for them. We changed into the individuals we fell in love with. Even when they no longer desire us, we continue to hang onto them. We evolved into the position we hold at work. We evolved into our vehicle, phone, and checking account. Unfortunately, our identification has destroyed who we really are.

The emptiness we were fortunate to have has been destroyed. We’ve clung to it so tightly that our own happiness and tranquilly are in danger. We have reached the conclusion that learning the art of letting go is the only way to end this experience. Let go. These are the two words that we hear and read practically everywhere.

Try to speak them aloud to yourself slowly and tenderly. “Let.” “Go.” Are they truly magical? Behind just five letters, we can sense the passion, joy, and serenity that they contain. They puzzle us even if they are good and hopeful. Even if we have the barest inkling of what letting go actually entails, deep down we are unwilling to put it into practise.

Why do we find them mysterious and why do we struggle to let go? Because letting go implies detachment, we find it more perplexing. For us, it signifies a total renunciation of the identities to which we have committed ourselves. We are hesitant to practise it since we believe we will lose a lot in the process. If we do lose a great deal, we will experience pain and sorrow. Losing control feels like entering an empty danger zone. Impersonal, unthinking, and empty. This is the exact area where we err. By losing ourselves in emptiness and carelessness, we have misunderstood the skill of letting go. We believe that if we let go, we will be ignoring the people and significant aspects of our lives. But the act of letting go extends much beyond the words’ intensity. To let go is to cease struggling. To break free from the bonds of fear, upset, and retaliatory behaviour.

More than any outward action, letting go involves a transformation in the soul. In order to let go, one must first detach from certainty and become acquainted with faith. Contrary to our fears, letting go does not sever us from our joy or peace of mind. A closer connection to joy and calm is facilitated by the art of letting go. A beautiful explanation of how to let go and still be happy may be found in a book by Sogyal Rinpoche that I recently read.
“Let’s try an experiment,” Sogyal says. Grab a coin. Put it in your mind as the thing you are grabbing.

Your palm should be facing the ground when you extend your arm while holding it firmly in your fist. Now, if you let go or loosen your hold, you will drop the object you are grasping. You cling on because of this. There is another option, though: You can let go while still holding on. Turn your hand to face the sky with your arm still extended. The penny is still on your open palm when you let go of your hand. You relax. Even with all of this blank space surrounding it, the penny is still yours. Consequently, there is a way for us to both enjoy and not grip life. How do we really get rid of attachment?

Only by realising its transient character, continues Sogyal Rinpoche. We are freed from its control by it. The genuine attitude towards change can be as unrestrained as mercury or as open as the sky as we watch the moving clouds. By its very nature, mercury will stay intact when put on the ground. Never does it contaminate the dust. Opinions, views, feelings, thoughts, and events come and go. We need to think of them as passing clouds in our vast sky so that we may let go of the negative identity they have given us. We make up the sky. The sky doesn’t alter. But the things in life that we long to hold onto change throughout time.

We let go of practically everything’s attachment when we understand that all experiences are transient. The coin is still in our palms, but our fist is not as firmly gripped. Despite having room around it, it is still lying there. We still have our own opinions, but we don’t stand up and argue that we’re right about them. Even though we still adore that person, we won’t battle to keep them if they decide not to want us anymore. We relent. On the outside, everything is identical. On the inside, however, there is a vast expanse of comfort and calm.

We can experience our fist’s numbness and agony while we hold on to the coin if we do the experiment that Sogyal Rinpoche recommended. However, as soon as we spread our hand wide, we can feel the muscles relax and become pain-free. Similarly, when we hold on to anything, our inner condition changes. When we refuse to let go, we experience turmoil. But once we do, we experience an indescribable sensation of relief. If we can embrace the idea of letting go, we can unlock a brand-new door that can lead to an ocean of joy. We need to be aware that letting go doesn’t equal failing. Just keep in mind that you still possess the coin; you aren’t clinging onto it.

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