I hope you see you don’t have to justify your decisions to anyone.

I hope you are aware that you are not required to justify your decisions to anyone. Particularly those who deliberately misunderstand you or who assume you are a risk-averse person. I hope you are aware that just because someone else finds something objectionable, it need not stop you from doing what you want to. I sincerely hope you don’t compromise your pleasure out of concern about upsetting or disappointing other people. I hope you are aware that because they have never been in your position, people rarely understand why you act the way you do. They are unaware of your motivations. They don’t get your joys or your patience with waiting for things to happen. They don’t understand why you hang onto certain things while letting go of others, and they certainly won’t comprehend your heart, including why you love and forgive some individuals while letting go of others.

I hope you are aware that people frequently give you advice that they do not follow. I hope you are aware that people will belittle suffering they have never experienced. You don’t have to keep pleading with people not to interfere with your life or your decisions, I hope you understand that. Just make your choice. Determine your own. Take note of your errors. You develop as a result of your decisions, whether they are good or bad, not as a result of what other people say to you. I hope you are aware that if you consistently prioritise other people’s approval over your wants, they will stifle you.

I hope you realise that you don’t need other people’s forgiveness as long as you can forgive yourself, regardless of whether your decisions were poor, your emotions overcame you, or you acted inconsistently with who you are. I hope you are aware that everyone you encounter has questions or is still learning, so you shouldn’t always rely on what they say or do. I hope you realise that only you will have to live with the consequences of your decisions, so you don’t need to defend them to those who are not experiencing the same things you are. I sincerely hope you never fall prey to their assessments and judgements. I hope you stay happy with your decisions.

I want you to understand that you don’t have to apologise to anyone for your decisions as long as you’re prepared to acknowledge that you made a mistake and as long as you’re constantly improving yourself or learning because the only person you owe an apology to is yourself. You can change your life at any time, and I want you to understand that it is always YOUR choice, not someone else’s.

“Resilience” is now PUBLISHED!!!! Knowing yourself, your thought patterns, emotional reactions, and go-to behaviours, is the foundation of good mental and emotional health. This book will teach you when to step back, take a break, and make a change. It will share suggestions on how to let go of the old, unhelpful assumptions and take the leap. Any purchases or KDP reads will be greatly appreciated. If you like my books, do leave a review. Here’s my author page on Amazon – https://a.co/d/5Rr2D4n