How To Accept Things As They Are Even When You Don’t Like Them
I have a few questions for you, which I hope you feel free to address privately. How do you respond initially when circumstances don’t go your way? What feelings do you have? Is it rage, worry, fear, or another unpleasant feeling? What thoughts are going through your head at this moment? What’s more, how do you feel better when you feel this way? Life will not always proceed as we anticipate; that much is certain. There will be unfortunate events, and we will have to handle problems that we have never encountered before. This might be challenging since we worry that we can’t handle what is happening.
However, that is only our initial response, and as we venture into the unknown, things may change. Because they assist us in making sense of what is happening in our lives, negative emotions are important. The secret, according to author Susan Jeffers in her self-titled book, is to feel the dread and go nonetheless. For example, psychologists discuss being used to discomfort and uncertainty. Except for those who are a Navy Seal, Green Beret, or Commando, this is not as simple as it seems. These highly accomplished special forces have a reputation for working in challenging conditions and enduring discomfort and uncertainty. However, for many of us who are not as trained as these people, living in our discomfort zone can be terrifying.
So what good does it do to be content with the way things are? Because we accept life as it is rather than wishing things were different, we experience less stress, pain, and suffering. In fact, it’s something I frequently observe while teaching folks. Many individuals desire to understand how to deal with their pain and suffering. They are shocked to hear that I assist them alter their perspective on the circumstance since they assume I will demonstrate how to do so. They always discover how to face their sorrow and alter the way they see what is happening, which reduces the intensity of their anguish.
Do you feel confident in your comprehension at this point? Could you consider the possibility that our pain and misery aren’t really caused by the circumstances of life, but rather by how we interpret those circumstances? Because everyone would view a difficult scenario differently if I exposed a population of people to it. Thus, we can either alter the circumstances causing us pain or alter how we react to those circumstances. In his most recent book, Living Untethered, author Michael Singer conveys life’s essence in the following ways: The moment in front of you is not disturbing you; rather, you are worrying about the moment in front of you. This is one of the most astonishing things you will ever realise. You are making it personal even when it isn’t. Granted, there are occasions when we are powerless to alter our external circumstances, and in these cases, we must alter our course of action rather than internalising the pressure.
In order to be clear, I must emphasise that this in no way emphasises what is happening in your life. So it is necessary to acknowledge your emotions if you are having problems with your employer or a close partner. It would be foolish to imply that this person or circumstance is the only reason of your misery, though, as there may be something within you that is responsible for the anguish. It involves balancing pain and equilibrium on a precarious tightrope. Because although stress can benefit our nervous system, excessive amounts can push us over the edge. Understanding our emotions rather than fighting them is necessary if we are to become at ease with the way things are. We have to, in some ways, get along with our feelings.
Here, befriending entails taking the time to pay attention to our emotions and comprehend the message they are attempting to send. Negative emotions are typically defence mechanisms we have ignored. As a result, when we return to ourselves with authenticity and compassion, we let healing and integration happen. We put judgement aside and focus on the lessons that may be learned from the experience. This is something I frequently mention in my work because I think it’s true. Finding meaning depends on our level of awareness and is subjective. Every individual will interpret their situation differently. However, what we should value most are the lessons we’ve learned from our challenging experiences.
Could you do this, then? Even if you don’t like it, could you allow yourself to become accustomed to how things are right now? Could you accept your wrath, fear, and other challenging emotions? Are you open to discovering something real and honest about yourself through these feelings? You will overcome any challenging event, I can guarantee you, when you choose to show up for yourself in a real and caring manner. In fact, in a way you never imagined possible, you welcome these strong feelings to unite with you.
In light of this, I kindly ask you to respond to the queries I posed in the introduction. If you’ve been following my work, you’ll know that I regularly ask questions because I believe that self-inquiry has a lot to offer. This is a potent tool because you stop depending on others for advice and start acting as your own therapist and healer. In the same way, self-inquiry is not a substitute for therapy but rather an addition to it. When you solve your own problems, you become resourceful and grow in confidence and self-worth. Working through our issues to become the people we need to be to overcome them is the goal of self-development. In the end, if we want to be at ease with the way things are, we have to let go of our ideals of how life ought to be and accept things as they are. By doing so, we throw open the door to change and let life teach us who we need to become in order to rise beyond our sorrow and suffering.
The Significance of Everything. The things is that poetry uses metaphors for meaning. Reading positive poetry helps you see that beneath the surface of everything there is a deeper meaning and significance. Poetry makes you dig for that meaning and helps you express that meaning. It is with these thoughts I bring an encouraging collection of poems in my poetry book “Honest Verses”. If you like my poems, do leave a review on Amazon. Here’s a link to the book – https://a.co/d/ihPmaC0
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I love this 🌻
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Thank you Sharon.
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