Don’t be Afraid of Being Sad


You won’t perish from sadness. The same is true with depression. However, resisting it will.

The lack of “bad” feelings you experience is not a sign of emotional intelligence; rather, it is a sign of having the discipline and knowledge “not to.” It doesn’t matter how effortlessly you make decisions about your thoughts, how they effect you, or how calmly you respond to any given circumstance. How deeply you allow yourself to feel something is a sign of real emotional development. Everything. whichever surface. It is just understanding that, in the end, the worst that might occur is only a sensation. I’m done now! a sentiment. Imagine the worst-case scenario, where the only thing that would be unpleasant is how you would feel. What you’d interpret it as, what you’d think the consequences signify, and how they would eventually influence… how you feel.

An unpleasant sensation, such as a sting, squeeze, or throb. a craving for food or an ego boost. the impression that one is unworthy and outsider. (Interesting how our perceptions of pain always appear to linger despite the fact that bodily sensations are always fleeting and brief.) But since we’ve been essentially taught that our emotions have life of their own, we try to avoid feeling anything. we won’t even give them a split second of our attention, they’ll continue forever. Ever experience happiness for a prolonged period of time? How does rage fit in? No? What about stress, unhappiness, and depression? Don’t you think those have endured longer? At a time, you mean weeks, months, and years?

That is the case as those are not emotions. They are indications. However, we’ll discuss their reasons in a moment. You must understand that pain is simply the inability to accept reality. I’m done now. Its etymology may be traced back to the Latin phrase “from below to bear.” alternatively, to “resist, endure, put under.” So, the key to healing is just feeling what you feel. It involves digging up your traumas, humiliations, and losses and letting yourself to feel things that you were unable to feel at the time. It involves allowing yourself to sift and process the things you had to repress in order to function at the time—possibly even to survive.

All of us worry that our emotions are too strong, especially while they are actually occurring. We were taught that if we were too loving, clever, or afraid, we may experience harm; if we were too fearful, we might be susceptible. must abide by how other people wanted us to feel. If our emotional experience didn’t fit with the convenience of our parents, we were disciplined for crying as children. (No surprise we still react in the same manner.) The key message is that you are not the only one who fears experiencing too much emotion. It’s the individuals that disparaged you as emotional, irrational, and incorrect. They want you to stay put because they don’t know how to manage it.

They are the ones that want you to continue feeling nothing. No, not you. How did you find out? Since you’ve never learnt to process anything at all, your numbness results from experiencing everything rather than nothing at all. Neutrality is nothing, but numbness is not. Everything at once is numb. Because of what your anguish is trying to tell me, I still want things to be different. Your humiliation is expressing, “I fear I am bad in someone’s eyes,” and your guilt is expressing, “I fear I have done bad in someone’s eyes.” Your anxiousness is your opposition to the process and your final attempt to exert control over something you are more conscious you do not have. Your fatigue is a manifestation of your resistance to the person you truly are and wish to be.

Your displeasure stems from your suppressed fury. Everything is rising to the surface as a result of your despair, biological considerations apart, and you are yelling down to put it away. And when you come to the realisation that you cannot continue in this manner, that you are losing out, that you are lost and feeling trapped, you realise that you do not need to modify your sentiments. Simply learn to lean into them and pay attention to what they are trying to tell you. Trying to alter your emotions is like to seeing a road sign that indicates in the opposite direction of where you wanted to go and getting out to try to flip the sign around instead of following your intended course of action.

And when we suppress the feelings that go along with our experiences, don’t give ourselves time to digest them, or attempt to force ourselves to feel a certain way at a certain moment, we ignore what will bring us the greatest peace: just accepting, without judgement. Therefore, it is not about altering how you feel. Listening is the key. It’s crucial to listen to your gut and understand what they are trying to say rather than accepting what they seem to imply. They serve as your primary means of self-expression. There is value in every emotion. Because you’re worried that you’ll tell yourself something you don’t want to hear, you attempt to modify everything and believe that some of them are good or terrible, right or wrong, or that you should have done something or not. As a result, you lose out on a lot.

Your most essential sources of self-direction are the emotions you deny the most. It is not your desire to listen that makes you reluctant. Fear of being something more, something less, something bigger, something worse, or just something different than what others close to you have hinted they will accept. When you decide that other people’s approval is more important than your own, you accept the fate of having to fight your natural inclination to pander to other people’s egos. A world and a lifetime of hearing, leaning, allowing, following, perceiving, feeling, and experiencing… continue to evade you in the interim.

Sadness won’t get you killed. Even depression won’t work. Fighting it will, though. It will be ignored. Instead of facing it, try to run away from it. It will be denied. Suffocation will do. Give it nowhere else to go except into the depths of your mind, where it can implant and exert dominance. It’s not that you’ll kill yourself or sabotage any “good” you do get, but you may. You must choose to either allow yourself to feel everything or numb yourself into feeling nothing, which will kill you because it will deprive you of every last piece of life you do have. Emotions cannot be chosen. Either you are flowing with them or you are resisting them and holding onto their characteristics. The final decision is yours.

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. sicetnon3 says:

    From my perspective (whose else), suffering is resistance to pain. Pain is the sensation we have been taught to resist. I have seen little kids fall hard and then look at their parents as if to ask, “How should I respond to what I’m feeling?”

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    1. GS says:

      Absolutely. Like any loving, lasting relationship, a relationship with yourself requires commitment, honesty, and attention. It takes practice. It demands a dozen little shifts in the way you go about your day, beginning with consistent self-inquiry. It will change your life. Ideally, it will also lead to a full-blown love affair with yourself.

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      1. sicetnon3 says:

        Yes, it seems impossible to love others if one doesn’t first love oneself. Then the distinction between self and others seems to vanish as we recognize ourselves in others

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      2. GS says:



  2. CattleCapers says:

    True. I was angry at my grandma’s doctor for giving her antidepressants after her husband (my grandpa) died, because grieving is part of the healing process.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes grieving is natural.

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