This Is Not Narcissism


It can be easy to confuse certain behaviors with narcissism, especially those related to self-promotion or self-confidence.

Here are a few behaviors that might be mistaken for narcissism, but are not inherently indicative of it:

  1. Expressing pride in one’s accomplishments: People who express pride in their achievements are often perceived as arrogant or narcissistic, but it’s normal and healthy to feel proud of our accomplishments and should be encouraged. It’s only when this sense of pride turns into feelings of entitlement or superiority over others that we’re moving towards narcissism.
  2. Being assertive: Being assertive is often essential to success in life, especially in the workplace. Standing up for oneself or advocating for one’s needs is not the same as being narcissistic. Assertive people are clear and direct about their needs and interests while considering the needs of others.
  3. Setting boundaries: Narcissistic people often have strict boundaries to protect themselves from harm or allow themselves to violate other people’s boundaries. Healthy boundaries help us protect our well-being and interact appropriately with others. When done in a respectful, clear way, setting boundaries helps to build and maintain healthy relationships.
  4. Self-care: Spending time on self-care and nurturing oneself is not narcissistic. Instead, it is a critical aspect of practicing self-love and good emotional health. Self-care includes taking care of one’s physical, emotional, and psychological needs, ensuring one’s emotional bucket is full so that they can be at their best.

In conclusion, while some behaviours might resemble narcissism, they may not necessarily be demonstrated by someone who is coming from a place of true narcissism. Therefore, it is advisable to refrain from jumping to conclusions unnecessarily and get to understand a person’s behaviour in more depth and context.

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. thank god I thought I was a narcissist!! 😉

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  2. Maryanne says:

    So many misuse that word.
    People should learn what they are talking about before they pick their battles.

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    1. GS says:



  3. Taran says:

    Narcissism and being proactive in one’s own life are, as you say, mutually exclusive. What’s particularly bad about being called a narcissist (spelling. the word never looks right to me) is that it opens health people up to gaslighting into wondering if they are.

    To me, it’s about intention, as you describe here throughout, but it’s all kind of slippery and I’m not sure exactly where the lines are, myself. I think that’s *healthy*, and questioning where the lines are constantly demonstrates one is not a narcissist.

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    1. GS says:

      I love your perspective


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