Forgiveness – Easier Said Than Done

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Not Just About Moving On, Forgiveness Is An Act Of Divine Will

We live our lives every day by walking and talking in accordance with our feelings, our thoughts, and most importantly our deeds. To some sense, we are in charge of our own destiny. People enter our lives occasionally so that we can start our future, and other times they leave so that we can finish it.Every day there is fresh birth, new darkness, new light, and new death. Unless a problem arises, we constantly think a thousand thoughts and are never able to concentrate fully on just one. The issue I raise has to do with forgiveness.

Humans have a tendency to forgive others based on three factors: the crime they have committed, other people’s thoughts on what this person has done to us, and most crucially, how it has affected how we feel about the other person. Someone cheating on you is an example of this transgression or a situation in which forgiveness might take place. When someone cheats, our feelings, other people’s perceptions, and our own ideas come first, followed by our anguish. When deciding whether or not to forgive this person, we consider these three criteria in addition to a few others. But there are some perspectives that we don’t consider in context.

One of these ideas is that life is fleeting. People may come into our lives to assist us, love us, or as I previously mentioned they could even hurt us badly. We are unable to foretell when something will happen to us or not. Sometimes, we may not even be aware that someone else is in charge of our life. Because they are aware that life is short, some people have a propensity to forgive other people. Others who have a propensity forgiving others may view this as a justification for forgiving as well as a justification to permanently cut this person out of their lives. Remember to always part on good terms when we decide to cut someone out of our lives since you never know what might or might not happen to them, for better or for worse.

Take other people’s ideas and opinions with a grain of salt. This is what I mean when I say that we should not be influenced by the opinions or actions of others and instead should decide for ourselves whether or not to forgive someone. While we can listen to what others have to say, we shouldn’t always take their advice to heart. When we confide in someone, they are not experiencing the same emotions as we are. We learn from experience in this way: through taking independent action and discovering coping mechanisms for difficult situations.

Last but not least, how much suffering do we experience as a result of this person’s wrongdoing? Are they harming us now for the first time? Is there never a good enough reason given for something? Do we believe they intended to harm us? These are the three key considerations we need to make while determining whether or not to forgive someone. We must realise that we shouldn’t let ourselves get into the habit of forgiving someone repeatedly. The reason for this is because the person you are forgiving will believe they can injure you again and you will continue to forgive them.

One day you will realise that you deserve respect, that you don’t deserve to be wounded any more, and that there isn’t enough love in the world to allow you to continue living with someone who regularly treats you with contempt and disregard for your feelings.

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20 Comments Add yours

  1. Stella Reddy says:

    Thank you for a very thought provoking post!

    I know I need to do it for me, not for them, but forgiving someone who continues to do things they know are hurtful to you, is hard to do.

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    1. GS says:

      I understand it can be tough. I am sorry this has happened. It will pass soon.

      Hope you got the book PDF.

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      1. Stella Reddy says:

        Thank you, yes, I know I will get there.

        I guess you didn’t get my email response? Yes, I got the book and have started reading it… It is wonderful so far and will let you know once I finish reading it. You are a fantastic writer!!

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      2. GS says:

        Oh I didnโ€™t get any response back. Strange.

        But I am so glad you are like my the book. Happy reading

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  2. Hope are goes well with you. I love your writing. Let’s follow our blogs. Anita

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Anita. I am so glad you like my posts. Stay blessed.

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      1. Can you follow my blog

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      2. GS says:

        I am unable to access your blog

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      3. https://100countrytrek.com/
        Click above
        Front page Red Wing Black Bird
        On the right side bottom page click the follow button.
        Let me know?

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      4. GS says:

        Will do

        Like

  3. Absolutely.. Again a thought provoking and insightful and substantial thorough read.. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you!

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  4. Wow ๐Ÿ˜ฎ such a beautiful image! Where is it?

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    1. GS says:

      Itโ€™s Norway ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

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      1. Ok it’s on my bucket list now!

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      2. GS says:

        A must travel

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  5. Great insight you have on forgiveness!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you. I am happy this post resonated with you. I recently read your post on Hidden Talents and how they are discovered while interacting with others. What others see in us is quite different from what we see in ourselves and thatโ€™s why itโ€™s necessary to get perspective but with caution as well.

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      1. True. Thank you for reading my post. I’m glad you benefitted from it.

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      2. GS says:

        ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

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