I’m Done With People Pleasing

You must quit satisfying others and ask yourself what you truly desire. That is not what you should do. Not what is most convenient. Not which method is the quickest. It’s not going to be easy. Not what looks good on paper. Not what others anticipate from you. Not what people expect of you. Not what will make you appear good on social media. Not the kind of thing that would make the tiniest ripples. Not what would be the most secure or intelligent. When you peel away everything else, when you stop caring about how you’ll appear to others or how difficult your life will be in the long run, ask yourself what you want. Ask yourself what you would do if no one was seeing, if no one was criticising, if you were truly making decisions for yourself and only you.

Stepping onto the diving board and trudging to the end is more terrifying than the actual splash into the sea. You’ll feel most out of your depth in the moments leading up to the leap, but once you get your momentum going, you’ll be fine. When the time comes, you’ll be surprised at how capable and resilient you are. But first, you need a push, the confidence to close your eyes and walk away. This will be the most difficult phase of the entire procedure. The remainder will be difficult, but it will be doable. You only need to take the first step. You must leap from the board.

The next time you’re concerned about how much you’ve lost, gaze to the sea. A starfish can regrow no matter how badly it is damaged. They can create a complete new body from a single arm, and you can do the same. You can sever your universe, destroy all you thought you understood about yourself, and remove the people you believed would be there forever and yet flourish. The missing bits you’ve shed will make way for new ones to grow. Remember that you will not feel the weight of your losses indefinitely. You will adjust to your new surroundings. Develop into your new self. You look like a starfish. Loss will only create way for fresh growth.

Research has revealed that we are bad at anticipating our emotional reactions. We are continuously overestimating the amount of suffering we will experience in any given situation, assuming the worst-case scenario rather than anticipating what would happen if our plans went as planned. This implies that no matter how horrible you think stepping away from your present circumstance would be, it’s usually not as bad as you’ve imagined. You’ll fare better than you expect in terms of weathering the aftermath. That is not to say it will be easy, but it will be bearable. Survivable. There’s a good possibility you’re in more agony right now, considering what move to make and determining the best time to make it, than you will when it’s all said and done and you’re in the eye of the cyclone. So stop lying awake at night, looking at the ceiling, wondering what will happen if you do what you’ve been wanting to do for a long time and do it now. It may be less painful to live it than to play out the scenarios night after night after night.

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